Can you really find a quality, attractive and available man just with a few clicks on your computer in just a few minutes of your time every few days?

Absolutely.

Without a doubt.

Each day I hear about couples who met online and are now getting married or making a commitment.

So why is it that for each success story, there are attractive and smart single women who are still sitting at home alone and DON’T have any success with finding love online?

After a lot of thinking and research on this, I’ve come up with the 4 most common reasons why great women don’t find equally great men on the internet:

1. They feel like it’s not for them
2. They want to try it but are intimidated by the process of writing about themselves
3. They tried it and got zero QUALITY responses from good men
4. They’ve met men for dates but didn’t “connect” with them so they gave up on the process altogether

These reasons are why I’ve put together a complete program that gives women like you all the TOOLS and special tips for ATTRACTING the right man online, and KEEPING him interested date after date after date.

It’s time you made it easy for that great guy to FIND YOU… by using the magic and convenience of the Internet.

How many great single men do you meet in your everyday life?

If you haven’t been meeting any, it’s time to stop waiting for love to find you… and put an easy “hook” out there to allow the right man to connect to you.

Go here now and check out my “Finding Love Online” program.

Finding Love Online

In it, I show you exactly how to:

• Write an easy, fun, authentic profile that will communicate the real you and only draw the attention of the right kind of man for you
• Have several great men EMAILING YOU wanting to get to know more about you and hoping to discover that you’re the one for them
• Stand out from all the other women online, and avoid doing and saying all the things that are sure to instantly make a man feel turned off to you
• Get around the need to have to contact men, and instead create the situation where they are getting in touch with you and being honest about who they are and what they’re looking for from the very first interaction
• “Screen” out the wrong men online (there are quite a few) and instead INSPIRE and ATTRACT the right men so that they can’t help but get in touch and share who they are with you
• Get the conversation started and quickly connect in a way that will have a man dying to get to know you better from your very first email
• Move from “chatting” or emailing to a first date in a comfortable and personal way that’s comfortable, fun, and safe
• And lots more

If you’re ready to meet the right man for you, and you’re open to making it easy for you and him to find each other quickly online…

Then here’s the best part…

I’ll let you try my “ Finding Love Online” program free for a full 30 days to see if it really works before you have to decide if you want to keep it.

Go here for all the details and to get started finally bringing the right man and lasting love into your life now:

Finding Love Online

Oh, and as I said…

You can get this program right now on CD or DVD… and you can even try it free of charge for a full 30 days to see if it’s really for you before deciding if you want to keep it and pay for it.

No obligations, no weird stocking or return charges, and no hassles if it truly doesn’t help the right man find you fast.

Try it now. There’s really nothing to lose.

There are several great men online looking for a woman like you for a REAL RELATIONSHIP right now.

Will your right man find you?

Or will you miss meeting him?

In this program I show you an easy way to quickly tell if any guy really is “relationship material” for you… all within the first email he’ll be sending you.

The question is…

Are you ready for the man you’ve been looking for to suddenly get in touch with you and want to start up a conversation about who you both are and what you’re both looking for in a partner?

If so, go here now and try my “Finding Love Online” program today:

Finding Love Online

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

WHAT WILL GET YOU TO “THE TRUTH” OF A MAN

Let me ask you….

Have you ever been with a guy and he seemed to have it all together?

He was caring, loving, generous, present and aware, and you had such an amazing time together.

But then his issues popped up out of NOWHERE.

Maybe his issues were some of the dreaded and predictable telltale signs of a confused and withdrawing man.

Tell me if any of the following seem strangely familiar to you:

• He starts acting restless and talking about how he isn’t really ready to “settle down” and wants his “freedom”
• He tells you that he didn’t see things getting “serious” so fast
• He doesn’t make an effort to connect with you, give you praise or attention, and stops sharing any personal thoughts or feelings
• He stops making you a priority. He wants to spend all of his time with friends or other people and doesn’t value time together anymore
• He never initiates anymore. He isn’t as physically excited and into you as he was at first
• He starts flirting, talking to or even hanging out with other women

Recognize any of these?

Ouch, right?

So what in the world can you do about it when a man is acting so withdrawn and closed off like in these situations above?

Well, tell me…

Did you ever sense any of these things coming before they happened, or when they started, but you didn’t have any “proof”?

Fascinating how that works.

What’s going on here?

Well, what’s happening centers around an important idea I want you to understand -

It’s the idea that you instinctively know more about what’s going on in the world around you than you or your conscious mind fully recognizes.

So here’s the deal…

You ALREADY HAVE a magical ability inside you that comes up for you every once in a while.

So all you have to do is learn how to consciously tune into it.

This “magic” is what we also refer to sometimes as INTUITION.

So how does it work and what is it?

In short, intuition is something that comes “pre-wired” in your brain.

The way your conscious and subconscious mind is hooked up to the rest of your complex body systems and senses make it possible.

So the good news is that this ability is there for you anytime you want to use it.

But the bad news is that you have to take time to fully tune into it and recognize your ability.

It a kind of “practice.”

Music is a good way to explain it.

You can’t just pick up an instrument and start playing, right?

But once you start to become more aware of the instrument, the music and how to play, things start to naturally fall into place.

And soon, sounds, melodies and rhythms just start to flow out of you in the moment.

Like they appear out of thin air, and nothing could feel more natural.

And your mind is able to process all the information coming at it that used to overload it.

But now it can take it all in and use it to actually ANTICIPATE what’s next.

Well, this is EXACTLY what this magical ability of yours called intuition is like.

Your mind is constantly picking up on information from your environment, even when you’re not really conscious of it.

And all that information is being “processed” over and over to try and calculate the risk, danger, and expectations from your environment to try to find a way towards the outcome you want.

So let’s get to it.

THE MAGIC POWER OF YOUR INTUITION

Here’s something you already know…

Men don’t make it very easy for open and honest communication about what’s happening and what’s going on in your relationship.

That’s why I don’t have to tell you that men can be bad communicators when it comes to their feelings, emotions and intentions around love and relationships.

But give them a sports game and they’ll give it all kinds of meaning and emotion that you’ve never seem them share before.

What a bunch of apes…LOL

So knowing that men can be BAD COMMUNICATORS, and that they can have serious shortcomings with sharing their feelings or simply knowing how they are feeling in a given moment and being able to articulate it leaves you with a personal choice to make.

You can either:

A) Do nothing about it and continue to be shocked, frustrated, surprised and hurt by the things that men do and say (or don’t do or say) and have your relationship stay “stuck” in the same place.

Or…

B) You can start to create a more perceptive and insightful way of being in your own life and relationships by using your natural intuitive abilities… and changing the way you and a man COMMUNICATE.

Here’s the thing…

Using your intuition will not only help you understand a man better, but help guide you to an even more rewarding benefit - to help him understand YOU.

So which one will it be?

Choice A - do nothing and stay “stuck”?

Or Choice B - grow and learn?

Nod if you’re choosing B - more perception and insight.

And if you’re still stuck in the trap of Choice A where things aren’t great but you always get to be “right” when the man in your life disappoints you… then go ahead and stop reading.

I don’t want to waste our time.

Good. Glad you’re still here.

Let’s get to it then…

USING YOUR INTUITION WITH MEN

Using your intuition might be the best, and in some situations, the ONLY way, that you’ll be able to know what’s really going on inside the mind of a man.

And even better, the best way to find a way to help him understand YOU and your feelings.

But if you’re completely honest, I think you’ll remember that deep down even YOU don’t always know exactly what your feelings mean or how to make sense of it all.

So how do you expect a man to take in the small part of your feelings that you can explain with words and understand and relate to you?

Here’s an answer to get you started -

Use your intuition and let it guide you.

So how do you do that?

I’m going to give you a short-cut guide to getting in touch with your intuition.

That way, you can start getting the benefits of understanding and becoming understood.

SIX STEPS FOR USING YOUR INTUITION WITH A MAN

Step 1: Clear Your Mind Of Fear And Doubt

Some women end up worrying almost obsessively that something is wrong or going badly with a guy they’re interested in or dating once they see some negative sign or pattern.

And once this happens, they want to know what’s going on so intently, and often expect the bad, that they let their negative thoughts take over.

If you want to be able to use your intuition, you need to start interrupting that voice in your head that’s the “fearmonger.”

You know the one - that voice that’s always worrying just to try and keep you safe and protected… And to predict all the bad things you’ve seen and felt before so that you don’t have to go through them again.

The thing is, you can’t find the truth in a situation if you and your mind is buried inside your mind in fears and doubts.

Have you ever seen how arrogant people often cover up or ignore real problems around them just because they want to believe they’re always right - no matter what the cost?

Same idea.

Keep a balanced and objective mind set.

That way your beliefs systems aren’t all mixed up with negative thoughts and fears.

If they are, there’s no way for you to see the real “cause and effect” around you.

You’ll just see what your mind is fearful and afraid of - and this only helps bring the same kind of negative situations and experiences you’ve had in the past into your life again.

Don’t do it!

By the way… if you’re having a tough time moving past any painful or negative thoughts or experiences from your past… or you see that often times it’s YOUR negative and fearful emotions that end up getting in your way and ruin things with men, then I would STRONGLY SUGGEST that you take a minute and read the letter at the link below to help get those negative thoughts and patterns out of your life once and for all.

Don’t let the things that don’t define you and aren’t your personal best push away the man you’re meant to be with.

Step 2: Accept That Men Don’t Make “Sense”

All those frustrating things that men do that don’t make any sense to you as a woman will NEVER MAKE SENSE.

Stop trying to make sense of them.

Trying to make sense of a man in your own terms is entirely counterproductive and will only make you frustrated.

To learn about things you don’t already know, like intuitive ideas, you have to have to look with a different set of eyes - not
the same ones you always use for yourself.

Step 3: You Can’t Figure Everything Out

Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy but after a few weeks or months, even though things seemed great, the man pulled away and starting acting distant and cold?

Most men, at one time or another, do things like this that are impossible to analyze and figure out.

So…

EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does.

If you can become more comfortable with the idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man does what he does, then you’ll feel a strange sense of calm relaxation - along with an increase in your own self-confidence.

And guess what? This ends up being VERY UNIQUE and very ATTRACTIVE when a man sees and senses that you can be confident and “centered” in those times where other women he knows have acted a little “too emotional” for him.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s OK for a man to do whatever he wants, and that you should accept any negative and withdrawing behaviors without having your own feelings about it - and “pretending” it’s all ok.

But the more relaxed and positive you think and feel around these things, no matter what the man is doing, the sooner you’ll stop fighting everything in your mind and start creating better situations for yourself.

It’s frustrating and counterintuitive, but accepting what’s going on and moving forward from that reality in a positive way changes the whole frame of the situation.

There’s a funny thing about the way the world works… and especially about how men are when it comes to relationships with women -

Any “force” or “energy” that you apply to a situation with a man… there will be a response that’s equal in force to what you’re doing.

This is a basic law of the universe - every force produces a response of equal force.

So if the “energy” you’re applying is anxious, fearful, uncertain, etc. than guess what you’re going to get back from a man?

You guessed it - the same kind of energy in response.

But some women get stuck in the “I need to understand why he did this and THEN I’ll figure out how to feel and act” mind set. So they keep on pressing and using the force they feel… thinking it will somehow transform into connection and understanding from a man.

I’ll put it to you straight - this NEVER leads to clear thinking and positive action.

And more importantly, it never gets you the kind of connection and response you want with a man.

Quick note here - what if instead of using fearful, anxious, negative energy that turns a man off, you were to have the kind of energy that would ATTRACT a man instead?

How do you “get” the kind of energy that tells a man that you’re the ONLY woman he wants to be with?

…that you’re unique and worthy of his time and attention?

…that he really got “lucky” the day he met YOU?

I’ll tell you how - you get it by doing and saying the things that trigger emotional attraction in a man.

If he can’t help but wonder and think about you all the time, he’s going to pursue you in order to be close to you. If you create real and lasting ATTRACTION in his mind, he won’t even be able to help himself.

He’s going to do what it takes to be with you.

Find out how to BE the kind of woman a man finds irresistible, by clicking here:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

Step 4: Listen For More Than Words

Intuition doesn’t talk in straight answers, or in plain logical English.

It’s much more abstract.

Your intuition talks to you through feelings, images, and bodily sensations such as “gut feelings.”

Most people, especially women I know, are usually in an open and relaxed state when they get intuitive gut feelings and understandings.

I couldn’t talk highly enough about meditation, but I know it’s not for everybody.

If you don’t think you have a strong intuitive sense, simply try asking yourself more questions and keep them mulling around in your mind.

When you’ve got something in the back of your mind, something amazing happens without you even trying.

Your brain takes notice and uses all your senses to find any sign or trace of information that relates to your questions as you go about your day.

It’s kind of like a search running in the background on your computer - even though you’re doing something else it doesn’t stop looking.

After you’ve asked your questions, your mind will start sending you ideas, feelings and images without you even thinking about it.

But sometimes it usually takes more time than you’d like.

Finally, your intuitive voice will eventually just pop up and start to give you hints and information without you even asking for it.

And then it’s up to you to pay attention, acknowledge it and make good use of it.

The huge mistake too many women make is when they get intuitive messages that they don’t like, or that scare them.

When this happens, a mature Woman will look at the intuitive message she’s getting and go to a place of figuring out how she can use the message she’s getting in a constructive way for herself - and for her relationship.

An immature woman (a Girl) will get very upset about receiving a negative message, and will get thrown off emotionally to the point where she will say things that shows she’s not in a very fun and attractive place personally and emotionally.

When a man sees this, it would be great if he would always stop and say,

“Hey, are you ok? Do you want to talk about it, honey?”

But I think you know that this is NOT what most men will do in these situations. Especially if you’re in a “newer” relationship… or you’ve been in a relationship where you’ve been acting hurt or upset often around a man.

At these times, most men will either PULL AWAY to try and avoid the negative emotions they can see and sense in you…

Or they will get irritated or frustrated with you and want you to simply get rid of your own feelings.

Either way, it doesn’t work out well. At all.

Step 5: Practice Your Intuitive Abilities

One of my favorite things to do is to train and tune my intuition with each new person I meet.

And I’ve personally found that body language has become the thing that gives me special intuitive hints about people and situations.

If you’re new to using your intuition or you’re concerned about if or how to act on it, start with smaller things that might be less important.

Like whether or not you should go away for the weekend or if your friend will like the gift you’ve been thinking about for them.

That way, you can be practicing and learn to use your intuition without doing it in high-risk or high-pressure situations.

This will help you develop your abilities and become more comfortable to trust what you find.

Step 6: Act With The “Long-Term” In Mind

Years ago I had a huge learning experience when it came to using and listening to my intuition in the right way.

I was working at a company that had laid off several people and I began to worry that my performance was being scrutinized and that I was in danger of losing my job, too.

I began to work harder than ever, hoping to show them how valuable I was to the company and how much they stood to lose if they laid me off.

One day, they called me into a meeting and I thought, “Uh oh. This is it.” I thought I was getting let go.

Before they could say anything, I started listing all the ways I was working hard. But I started blaming the managers for a lot of the things I thought were wrong with the company.

Fortunately, they stopped me before I went “too far” and said too much. They told me they had noticed how much I had accomplished recently and wanted to express their appreciation.

The meeting went nothing like I had expected.

End of story.

Thinking back, my intuition had alerted me so that I’d be aware of what was going on, which was good because I was able to “step up” at a very crucial time.

But the mistake I made was taking that information and using it to justify my own fears and insecurities.

If I would have taken the information, been patient with it and applied it towards my goals in a positive context, then the entire experience knowing that the managers were watching my work would have been different.

Maybe even productive for me.

But I didn’t use my intuition to see my way to something better. I simply used it as a means to worry and stress myself out over my own fears.

So all this talk about intuition…

How does it really apply to the men in your life, dating and relationships?

Well, take a man with some of those common negative male behaviors-

• fear of intimacy
• inability to commit
• flirting, cheating
• withdrawal

Intuition can help you see past these things and understand them in the larger context of the deeper, real psychological and emotional “stuff” that’s hiding beneath the surface.

Your intuition could even help you cut through a man’s ego and persona to get to the real person that’s often hard to find.

Intuition is probably the best tool for being able to identify good and bad qualities in a man.

A man’s external or surface behavior and attitude can be very different than his deeper desires and intentions - as you probably already know.

Some men are, unfortunately, just good at playing the part of an emotionally stable, available and loving guy for a while, even if they aren’t.

So it’s really up to YOU to learn to get to the “deeper emotional truth” of any man you’re interested in or dating.

And yeah, I know men can be soooo frustrating.

In a better world, men would be able to tell you honestly and sincerely where they were at.

But as you know, MEN SUCK sometimes.

And a man will basically NEVER be able to tell you clearly and honestly everything he feels or what he wants when you ask him.

So if you’re constantly surprised, blind-sided or confused by what men around you do, then it’s time to get in touch with not only your intuition, but the other knowledge and skills that you can put to work for yourself.

Your heart and your love-life deserve it.

In my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program, I reveal the “inner psychology” of men when it comes to dating, relationships, love and sex, so that you can get a better understanding of where your man is coming from, and how to handle every one of those “weird” but common male behaviors I mentioned earlier.

Remember, learning to understand is one of the best ways to be understood.

With my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program, you’ll learn to quickly identify what a man is thinking and feeling with you - without letting those self-destructive fears pop up that so often cause us to react in fear, anger or frustration.

Have you ever built up all kinds of frustration about a man, and when you finally talked to him, it all came out in a destructive whirlwind that only pushed him away?

Stop doing that to yourself and to your relationships.

It’s easy to inspire a man to really love and appreciate everything about your relationship.

It all starts with a basic UNDERSTANDING of what HE needs in order to feel like he’s the right partner for YOU.

Go here now and learn what men really need in order to feel “in love” with you and in order to know that you are “tuned in” with him every step of the way:

Inside the Mind of a Man

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

And if you haven’t read my eBook, “ Catch Him & Keep Him,”  I strongly suggest you do it right now.

You can download my eBook now right here:

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A man can think you’re beautiful and can be attracted to you PHYSICALLY.

He can think you’re intelligent and talented and be attracted to you INTELLECTUALLY.

But what is this “other” kind of attraction, and how does it relate to love and attraction?

It’s EMOTIONAL attraction, and it’s the difference between a man going out with you to “get to know you” and a man pursuing you because he can’t get enough of you.

It’s the difference between a man telling you that he’s too “busy” for a serious relationship right now (because he doesn’t FEEL it for you).

Or asking you if you can make room in your life for HIM (because he wants you and only you).

Curious how this type of attraction works?

If you want to learn about it, then take a minute and read THIS:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

I want to share what could be one of the most important things you ever learn about ATTRACTING and KEEPING the right man for you.

I’ll start here:

“You can’t talk a man into feeling attracted to you, let alone want a relationship…”

I realize that this may sound like an obvious statement, but judging by the emails that I get week in and week out, maybe it’s not as obvious as it might seem.

In fact, when I look at most women I know, even women who are real “catches” and have their act together… these smart women are also guilty of trying to talk and convince a man into feeling what they want him to feel.

Heck, I’ve done this same thing myself with women I’ve dated in the past. And so have most other men.

It’s a common mistake both men and women make when it comes to love, dating and getting into new and uncertain relationships.

So, what do I mean by this silly-sounding statement that you can’t talk a man into feeling attraction for you, or talk him into feeling the way you want him to feel?

Well, let’s start with some ideas that I hear in one form or another all the time from women.

Here are a few I hear the most:

“We had an amazing time on our date and really connected on a lot of levels, so I can’t understand why he never called me back.”

“I’m tired of ‘dating’ and I don’t want to play games anymore. I just want to be myself.”

“I want a man who likes me for who I am. Otherwise, he doesn’t deserve me.”

“I give him everything he wants, and I do the nicest things for him… and I don’t understand why he doesn’t feel the same way about me that I feel about him.”

“He calls me and wants to spend time with me and be physical and intimate, but then he says he doesn’t want a relationship. I’m so confused because he says one thing, but does another, and I can tell he really cares about me.”

“We’ve been dating for a while, but things don’t seem to be going anywhere after some time…and I’m afraid of what will happen when I ask him where things are going and how he feels.”

And the list goes on and on…

Now, I realize that these statements and the common situations I listed above are actually different from each other, and deal with different issues.

But the fascinating things is that there’s a common denominator in each of them.

It’s that if you’re in one of these situations, then…

You’re not behaving in a way that is making him FEEL that intense kind of ATTRACTION that tells a man that he has to be with you, and only you.

And in most cases, instead of making a man FEEL the thing that will instantly win him over and have him throwing caution to the wind to make a go at true love and a great relationship with you…

You’re instead trying to TALK or CONVINCE a man into logically becoming interested and “into you.”

I got one letter recently where a woman was telling me that she had been out on a date, and there was chemistry… but the guy hadn’t called back again and she still was interested in this guy and had to know what she could do.

She seemed to think that just because nothing obvious was BAD about the date, that this man should also be interested and attracted to her and want to go out again… or else something was wrong with him.

Maybe she thought that a few more uninteresting dates that didn’t inspire the man to have to see her again would cause him to open his eyes and heart and see the light.

Here are a few common problems that lead to “BORING DATE-ITIS” where men aren’t inspired and craving a second date to get to know you better:

Problem #1) Playing it “safe” and trying consciously to get a man to like you.

This includes following his lead all the time, not saying anything about how you think or feel that you think will upset him, and making sure that you’re “polite” and never say anything that could be too controversial.

Problem #2) Acting “formal.”

This is death when it comes to interest and attraction. A man either feels like he’s on a job interview and doesn’t become EMOTIONALLY ENGAGED with you… or he’s plain BORED with you and will have a hard time finding anything about WHO YOU ARE that is personally interesting.

A man doesn’t fall for a “good” woman, and doesn’t want to be with her because she’s good.

A man falls for a woman who makes HIM FEEL GOOD, and who is exciting and fun to be around - even if she is a little “bad.”

Problem #3) Being BORING.

And talking about BORING things. At the top of the list are of course the things that women talk about and go to as a kind of “default” when they’re wondering what to say - jobs, family, weather, etc. Everything that makes up “what people talk about to get to know each other.”

These things don’t really help us get to know one another. Sure, they’re nice… but they don’t cost much for us to reveal, and we’d tell any stranger about these things if they asked in a nice way.

But more importantly, they don’t create any kind of EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE or CONNECTION when you talk about them.

In fact, they put a man back into the mundane aspects of his everyday life… and he’ll bring those feelings to the table with him when you talk about all these things.

And guess what happens then?

He associates these boring mundane everyday feelings with YOU. And viola… you are another boring date with nothing special or interesting going on.

Now that I’ve covered a few of the problems and mistakes women make… I’ll give you some deeper insights about these and what you can do to quickly have the right man feeling an INTENSE level of ATTRACTION for you in no time flat.

TRYING TO GET A MAN TO LIKE YOU

Trying to get a man to like you before he really knows you has a strange and fascinating effect -

It makes him feel the opposite of interested in you. It REPELS him.

I’ve heard about and watched women go about dating in the “proper” way for years now, and consequently do everything they can to try and get a guy to like them.

Dating the “proper” way usually consists of talk about socially acceptable topics, asking the other person about themselves and not talking about yourself too much, and generally trying to make sure that the man is comfortable and has fun.

This is great, if you want to make sure that you and a man become great FRIENDS.

But it practically guarantees that a man is NOT going to feel that special something for you that he can’t describe but makes him want to shower a woman with attention and love he never even knew he was capable of before.

Unless you’re Aphrodite the Goddess of Love who was the most beautiful woman on Earth… and men simply fall at your feet… then what makes a man interested in you as a woman for more thanjust a fling has nothing to do with being “nice”, getting along with him, and making him comfortable.

Men are BORED TO DEATH BY THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR.

Here’s the thing…

Without knowing that they even have an “approach”, tons of women use this “I’ll be like a great friend” approach when they go out with men.

I probably don’t have to tell you how this works out 99% of the time.

Oh, there’s also my personal favorite approach women take on “unknowingly.”

I call it the “volunteer therapist” approach.

It’s when a woman starts digging for the things that a man is having a hard time about in his life, in hopes of connecting to him about something important in his life.

And when they find this thing inside a man, they use it to become his VOLUNTEER THERAPIST.

As though if they can make things better for a man, he’ll magically transfer the understanding he feels into UNDYING LOVE.

And talk about a terrible way to go about trying to start a healthy relationship.

Remember, you can’t buy love. Not even with EMOTIONAL bribes. So don’t try.

When it comes to the kind of woman a man really wants and is looking for… being the nice and predictably boring woman will quickly put you in the “she’s sweet but it’s just not there” category.

And you’ll forever be STUCK there once a man puts you in this category.

That’s how it goes for most women who make these mistakes.

And becoming a man’s therapist will work great, as long as he wants a woman to vent to and make him feel better.

But once he’s done with his therapy sessions, guess what happens to you?

Exactly. He’s off the couch and out of Dodge.

You don’t want to aim to be the kind of woman a man might finally recognize and decides after a little while could be a good partner for him because there’s something convenient you can do for him.

This is the kind of woman a man can easily do without. And in fact, the kind of woman a man will PREFER to do without once he wants to move past all the “therapy” and issues in his life.

You need to be the kind of woman a man can’t help but LOVE and WORSHIP because the FEELINGS and EMOTIONS you spark inside him are so exciting and deep that he can’t help himself from feeling them.

You need to do the things that will bring a man into his FEELINGS and EMOTIONS in an undeniable way no other woman has before.

And then, and only then, will a man truly and deeply NEED to be with you.

And then, and only then, will a man instantly COMMIT on a physical and emotional level to a REAL RELATIONSHIP… without hesitation.

There will be no more fear of commitment.

There will be no more worries about the timing, or what if it’s too soon.

And there will be no excuses like he’s not ready, he’s not looking, or he isn’t in the right place in his career to think about something serious.

All this can and will quickly disappear from a man’s mind once he recognizes you as the right woman. But he can only do that after he starts having all the FEELINGS and EXPERIENCES with you that show him that you are the one woman for him.

If you’re looking for the quickest way to have a man experiencing these kinds of feelings with you where he can’t help but lavish you with attention and APPRECIATION, then here’s the fast and easy way to make it happen:

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Now, back to it.

When you meet a man for coffee, for dinner, or just to get to know one another, it’s time to have FUN.

It’s not time to try and kiss up to him, or to be his therapist, or to massage his ego and tell him all the things he might want to hear.

That’s what he has a mother for.

Playing it safe and kissing up to a man, or showing him that you nervously hope that he is going to like you and give you his approval is a sure way to get either a man who will take things to a physical level just because the opportunity is there… or a man who won’t call you back because he’s not interested for real. ACTING “FORMAL”

Don’t talk about your job and your family for starters!

BORING!

There is plenty of time to talk about all this stuff and get into these things once you and a man are both EMOTIONALLY ENGAGED not just as two people, but as two people who are ROMANTICALLY INTERESTED in each other.

The romantic interest stuff (that spark) needs to be there and come together first on a date with a man before you get into all the predictable yadda yadda yadda stuff.

Women who are trying to convince men that they’re “nice” or good people talk about their families and how good they are at their jobs.

Or how they have their act together.

Let me give you a hint:

Do you know what a “boring” and not so interesting woman acts like on a date with a man?

Well, for starters she acts like he’s NOT COMFORTABLE in the situation…

She talks too much about things she thinks will make her look good.

She apologizes for the smallest little thing of no consequence like not being ready to order yet when the waiter comes.

She agrees with pretty much every opinion or belief a man has, or anyone nearby.

She constantly asks the man what he’d like to do.

And she holds her body in an unsure, insecure way that shows she isn’t very comfortable or in touch with her body or her sensuality.

That’s a good start of what makes for a boring and uninteresting woman to a man.

Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and way too much talk about “He said/She said” or other peoples lives and relationships… and the associated dramas and you’ve got the makings for a man deleting your number from his phone as fast as he can!

So, what’s the answer? What’s the secret to making the right man, when you finally think you’ve met him and want to get to know him, feel attracted to you and not be BORED?

I thought you’d never ask.

Here are a few ideas for starters:

Tip #1.

Talk about things you are passionate about. And no, I’m not talking about the 7 cats you have at home and how cute they are. Talk about something you like to do that has a PURPOSE.

A man can and will relate to this… and he’ll start to see things in you he couldn’t see before. A good example of this is a woman I know who loves to practice yoga. When she describes what it is about yoga that fills her inside and makes her feel great physically, emotionally, and spiritually - you can’t help but be drawn in.

Tip #2.

Talk about something that isn’t BORING, and instead a little out of the ordinary. One great thing to do is to get a man to talk about his life, then find things to make observations about that either let him know you “get him” and what he’s about (why he does what he does)… or find little things to tease him about.

This is a great opportunity for building the kind of attraction that will carry into the future.

Men love joking and teasing. It’s their universal way of bonding. And when a woman is laid-back and comfortable and playful enough to not be completely serious and sincere 100% of the time, it’s refreshing and fun for a man.

For example, if a man seems very hard-working and serious… you might make a flirty sarcastic joke like this:

YOU: “Well, it’s too bad you’re such a flaky slacker. I was looking for a man of substance. But I guess you’re still decent company.”

And you say all this with a warm and playful smile on your face to let him know you’re playing around.

He’ll know you’re joking, and want to engage in the playful behavior with you.

HIM: “Well, that’s too bad because I was going to ask if you could start supporting me so I could stop working all together and just sit at home and watch TV all day.”

YOU: “Mmmm… what a turn-on a man like that would be for me.”

You get the idea…

The magic here is if you can be SAYING ONE THING… but subtly MEANING ANOTHER THING.

Men find this riveting and won’t want the fun and flirtation to stop.

Tip #3.

If there is a silence, NEVER let it be uncomfortable. I think that it’s great to stop talking when you’re first getting to know a man and enjoy a few silences where you’re either just having eye contact… or you’re simply in each other’s company but not “filling the space” with idle chatter 100% of the time.

If the conversation goes cold for a few moments, just pay attention to something else for a minute and don’t be afraid to engage in the environment around you.

This includes talking and paying attention to other people in a fun and open way, or making funny or silly observations of what’s going on around you.

Strangely enough, a man will want your attention more, and want to give you more attention, if you engage with other people around you more often.

Tip #4. DON’T BE PREDICTABLE.

The more predictable you are, the faster you will be considered BORING.

Why?

Long story short, there’s a region of the brain that is tasked with trying to figure things out ahead of time and recognizing them to make quick meaning out of them.

If this part of our brain can’t easily recognize or predict something… we’re made to pay more attention to it.

It’s an important part of our survival instincts as humans.

Which means… if what you say and do is easily predictable and a man feels like he’s heard what you’re saying before (especially from other women)… then you’ll by definition be BORING because you won’t get much of his attention or interest.

And you definitely won’t cause him to have any kind of intense EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to you.

Luckily, the answer of what to do about all this is much easier than the “science” behind it all…

Learn to say random things. Disagree with a man once in a while… even if it’s just for fun and playful teasing… and keep him guessing what it is you’ll say next and what it is you really mean.

Then you’re sure to have his attention - and his interest. Plus, you’ll both have a great time.

OK, I think you’re getting the idea.

Men don’t want BORING.

A man would rather be with an interesting, fun exciting woman than the most loving woman in the world who was always serious.

Once a man starts to feel that magical emotional and physical response called ATTRACTION, the entire situation changes, and you start having the kinds of experiences most women only dream about with men.

And your RELATIONSHIP falls into place all by itself… without you having to worry and deal with a man who seems “iffy” and UNCERTAIN about being with you.

Most men go through life WISHING, HOPING, AND DREAMING that they will someday find a woman who is both radiant, beautiful, fun, and can make them feel the amazing feelings that come from the ATTRACTION created with flirting, teasing, and UNPREDICTABILITY.

So what’s the best way to learn how to make a man feel ATTRACTION for you?

Of course, my online eBook and my “ Natural and Lasting Attraction” program.

Making a man feel ATTRACTION isn’t about luck, or about talking to him about the things that would make YOU feel it for a man.

If you’re ready once and for all to stop guessing at what works with men, and you’d like to learn how to start having a man quickly OPEN UP to you for more than just a “for-now relationship” where a man is simply passing the time with you FOR NOW… then I want to help you.

You can download my eBook and be reading it within a few minutes. Go get it here:

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Oh, and let me ask you…

What should you do when a man you’re with seems to be falling OUT OF LOVE with you?

In my Natural & Lasting Attraction program, I explain the 4 common failing “approaches” or strategies women take on when they’re with a man and they want him to start feeling something more.

The most amazing part is that these 4 common “strategies” themselves are what have most men PULLING AWAY and becoming disenchanted day to day in the relationship in the first place.

Sure, some men aren’t very good at “sticking with it” when it comes to love… but there’s more to it than that.

Do you want to stay at the mercy of whether or not a man decides he wants to “stick to it” with love or not… or do you want to make this a non-issue in YOUR RELATIONSHIP for good?

To learn what these 4 mistakes are, how to avoid them since they are sure to make a man pull away and stop “feeling it” for you…

And to discover how to make a man feel much much more than just a physical attraction for you… but a deeper “emotional connection” and attraction as well, then it’s time you checked out the program that will show you exactly how to do all this and more with a man.

Go here now to watch some free sample video clips from this program all about creating attraction with a man… and find
out exactly how it can take your love life from disconnected and uncertain to passionate and engaging in no time at all.

If you’re ready to change your love life and the way men respond to you on a physical and emotional level… then now’s the time.

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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

You know the kind of women I’m talking about.

They’re not necessarily supermodels or highly successful or even all that “together” sometimes.

But they have a “natural” ability to be irresistible to men, so men are always asking them out and working hard for their attention.

They also have an “easy” time with relationships because keeping a guy interested in something real and long-term never seems to be a problem.

So if it’s not about “looks” or “brains” or even PHYSICAL attraction, what’s it about? What is it about a woman that triggers that deep longing in a man?

If you’re interested in becoming the kind of woman who naturally ATTRACTS a man for MORE than a dead-end and “going nowhere” kind of relationship, then go to the link below now and read about the SECRETS to natural and lasting ATTRACTION.

Be sure to watch the video clips at the bottom of the page, too:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

There’s a huge mistake you are probably making right now with men you’re attracted to and would like to date.

And you are probably making it within the first five minutes of meeting them.

What’s worse is that most men will see and recognize this mistake INSTANTLY.

Don’t believe me? Read on and find out if you’re guilty of this common mistake, and then learn how to STOP doing it immediately and transform “dating” into the fun, exciting, and successful process of truly connecting with a man.

Now, let me ask you something…

When you start talking to a man who you’re “interested” in, what is your attitude toward him?

How do you treat him?

And what are you THINKING ABOUT?

Do you start the interaction by trying to figure out if he’s single and how to get him to be into you?

Do you assume that if he’s anything close to attractive and interesting, then he’s probably married or has a girlfriend?

And if he is “taken,” do you secretly hope that he isn’t too into her and that he’ll take notice of YOU?

Here’s one that I know you’ve probably done at some point in your life. Maybe you’re even doing it now:

You meet a guy who is absolutely your TYPE and you’d love for him to be interested in you enough to ask you out, but you PRETEND you’re not “into him” that way, and instead you look away when he looks at you, get busy in a conversation with someone when he approaches you, or you distract yourself with something right after you talk so he can’t see how nervous you feel?

And do you do these things hoping he’ll make a “move” or do or say something that will send a signal that he’s interested in you, too?

If you are thinking, “yeah, that totally sounds like the kind of stuff I do when I meet someone I’m attracted to!” then you’re not alone.

The fact is, most women make the same mistake when trying to spark interest in a man.

They leave it up to men, or to “fate,” to decide what happens in their situation - and are UNAWARE of what kind of signals they’re actually sending to the guy.

They think they’re making the right move by “playing it cool” but in reality they’re coming off as disinterested, boring or maybe just “cold.”

Hmm…not the way you’d want a man you’re interested in to describe you, is it?

Now, most women won’t ADMIT that in reality, when they meet a man they’re attracted to, they will try to do or say whatever it takes to get his attention and interest - if they only knew what that was.

And they won’t ADMIT that they’re even mentally anticipating what a man is going to think or do so they can respond to it in the “right” way.

The reality is that women spend a lot of time THINKING about how to attract a good man, instead of doing the things that actually draw a good man to them.

And they do this ALL THE TIME.

Let me explain…

Out of a random sample of 100 handsome guys, you’d probably find that only 20 of them (or so) are:

• Single
• Emotionally stable and at least semi-mature
• Able to carry on an interesting conversation
• Open to a relationship, should the right woman come along
• Not a player, or looking for just “fun”

This is just an estimate from my own personal experience, but I think you get the point.

Now, here’s the important part of this concept…

Let’s say that you started talking to all of these 100 men, one after the other, and you had to use the same basic attitude and conversational style with each of them.

What would you do?

If you treated all of them like they were probably NOT single, interesting, stable, open, mature, etc, (which is the case for most of them), then you’d probably scare off the single ones who actually were the good ones, because they’d think YOU were acting strange, or that something was “off” with you.

For instance, let’s say you started a conversation with a very attractive guy who was open-minded and funny.

But let’s say that you were “playing it cool”, not saying anything that might offend or appear “too forward”, and generally treating him and talking to him like he might be a good “friend.”

You’d probably be trying to figure out if he was single, what his “story” was, and ask him some questions to get to know a bit about him.

“So what do you do?”

“Where are you from?”

“How did you get so funny?”

And then, when the conversation was over and even though he hadn’t asked for your number, you’d give it to him and say, “So, why don’t you call me sometime?”

And what is this hot, smart, desirable man thinking while you say this?

Right… unless he’s purely physically attracted to you, he’s thinking that you and he didn’t really “hit it off” and that you must be kind of desperate to ask him out when you didn’t share any real “chemistry” or connection.

(Remember, you were playing it cool the whole time… You weren’t flirting, you weren’t trying to do or say anything that gave away how you really felt. All you were doing was asking him a bunch of questions about his everyday life. BORING!)

Now, let’s take the flip side of talking to these 100 men.

Stay with me here.

Let’s say that you treated ALL of the 100 attractive men like they were fun, open, smart, available, interesting, etc.

What would happen?

Well, you’d probably start flirting with them all right from the beginning, or you’d communicate very quickly that you weren’t just another woman asking them about their job or trying to be “friendly.”

And what would happen?

Well, as you can imagine, a lot of the men who were either unavailable or unable to have a normal conversation would “reject” you. Especially if you were obviously open, available, but not a push-over at the same time (letting them know that you were the one doing the “choosing”, and that only “real men” would be considered).

Well, for most women, the THOUGHT of being “rejected” by a man they’re interested in is worse than slow water torture or electric shock.

So what do women do?

They don’t even try.

And they miss the opportunities with all of those wonderful, single, open, emotionally available men who are out looking for a woman who has the confidence to find them.

So what’s the solution?

The solution is to use a little “strategy” or “technique” called behaving AS IF he’s single, available, and interesting.

You must learn to overcome your initial self-doubt and your doubts about a man, and behave AS IF every man you start talking to is SINGLE and AS IF he’s going to be a great guy.

And then you must do some things that will attract THAT man, and forget about what might happen with the other 80% of guys who can’t make the grade.

And you must learn to NOT take the things that happen in between meeting the wonderful ones PERSONALLY.

There’s an old principle when it comes to marketing and advertising that really applies here in the real world.

It basically says that out of 100 people reading your ad or seeing your commercial, maybe ONE of them is someone who would buy your product anyway.

SO QUIT TALKING ONE-ON-ONE TO ALL OF THE 100 PEOPLE, AND SIMPLY TALK TO THE ONE.

To put it another way: “Don’t worry about the DOGS, concentrate on selling the FOXES.”

This is a great metaphor I borrowed from a smart writer I know named Gary Halbert.

The point is… talk to the men you meet AS IF they’re single, open, interesting, and wonderful.

And then don’t worry about the ones that don’t turn out to actually BE single, open, interesting, available, and wonderful.

Use the things you’re learning from me, and KEEP USING THEM… even if they don’t work every time, and in every situation.

There are all kinds of reasons why men aren’t “ready” or interested… or stop being interested… or whatever.

But this doesn’t mean that you should stop doing what works!

…which leads me to my next point.

You’re probably wondering… “Christian, so how do I behave AS IF the man I am meeting will likely turn out to be a good guy… or even be my “Mr. Right”?

Good question. I’ll tell you how…

When you first start talking to a man, your BELIEFS about men, dating, and relationships are CRITICAL.

If you don’t know how to communicate in a way that INSTANTLY shows a man that you’re one of the women who “gets it”, has confidence, and is attractive both inside and out… then you’ll probably be overlooked and mentally discounted by a man within SECONDS.

Or a man will want to be with you for the WRONG REASONS, or for only a short and uncertain amount of time.

Of course, in order to PROJECT the correct beliefs that are attractive to men, you must KNOW WHAT THEY ARE, and UNDERSTAND THEM.

In other words, you can’t just “fake” them. You actually have to have a DEEP understanding of how men think, and what makes them feel a POWERFUL, gut-level emotional ATTRACTION for a woman.

It’s taken me YEARS to figure out this critical point in dating and relationships…and several more years to observe and study so I could help women do this quickly and easily.

And without doing all kinds of “kooky” and out there stuff, or stuff that doesn’t feel “real.”

Like not calling a guy back right away, or pretending you’re busy when you’re not, or saying one thing but feeling another (WITHOUT a smile on your face as you’re saying it).

Anyway, you get what all of that means.

No one likes to play “games”, or have games played with them.

There is a way to completely AVOID PLAYING GAMES and get straight to the kind of connection and indirect communication that brings a man and a woman closer than by simply using words.

You can’t learn to be a professional opera singer or an expert in martial arts just by learning a few “techniques.”

It takes a DEEPER, more profound understanding.

And you can’t learn how to be become more successful in your single life, or in your relationship by learning a few of the right things to say.

It just doesn’t work this way.

(Think of men who believe in and try to use “pick-up lines” on women.)

This is why I’m not going to give you a list of “pick up lines” to say to men to spark their interest in this e-mail, because it just won’t work for you unless you understand the ATTITUDE that has to come before any words come out of your mouth.

After spending literally YEARS seeing women I know making mistakes, seeing them trying different things, and putting the pieces together in my own studies, observation, and teaching…I’ve created a systematic way for women to learn ALL of the various aspects of how to be successful with men and dating.

And I’ve created a few specific educational tools so you can learn this skill… right from the comfort of your own home.

The most powerful tool to get you started is my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” program.

It’s 6 full hours of digital CD Audio or DVD Video material, plus a detailed workbook.

I teach everything from the ground up:

• How and why men are attracted to some women and not others
• Specific techniques to use to get a man’s attention FAST and keep him coming back for more again and again
• Interviews with 3 amazing guest experts who are masters in their own area of knowledge related to dating
• How to overcome fears of meeting and dating men
• The 6 essential keys to ATTRACTION you need to know in order to take your relationship beyond just a physical bond, and create the kind of deep EMOTIONAL CONNECTION with a man that will LAST

And there’s lots more in this program.

You’ll want to go through this material SEVERAL times before you want to put it down…and in fact, you’ll probably keep reviewing the material for some time.

If you’d like to listen to some audio samples and see a sample clip of the video, just go here (this is also where you can order):

Natural and Lasting Attraction

Oh, and one CRITICAL thing you need to know when you’re with a man and you want to move your relationship into a more CERTAIN, SECURE, COMMITTED place, is exactly how to get there with him.

Lots of women go their WHOLE LIVES never learning how love and commitment actually works for a man.

As you probably already know, a man can be very RESISTANT to committing to a relationship with a woman… EVEN IF HE LOVES HER.

In other words, just because a man falls for you, it doesn’t always mean that he’ll feel like TRULY COMMITTING to you.

If you know a man feels strongly for you, or even loves you… and you are having trouble growing the relationship and moving forward together into a more SECURE and CERTAIN place, then it’s time you checked out the program I created just for you. It’s called “From Casual To Committed.”

Go here right now to watch some great sample video clips from this program and see what other real women like you have to say about it…

From Casual to Committed

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. If your relationships start out STRONG but end up in DISASTER, then you may actually be doing all kinds of things that are triggering a negative response in a man’s mind without even knowing it.

The number one mistake a lot of women make when they’re dating someone they’re really into is to try to CONVINCE him he should want or feel more.

They do this by telling him how great the relationship is and how he should be feeling more or taking the “next step” in the relationship.

Whether that’s telling you how he feels, or moving on to a more committed relationship with you, or spending more time with you.

If you’re doing this without knowing exactly what it takes to CREATE those kind of feelings in him, or what will make him want to commit to you and love you for his OWN REASONS, then you’re just spinning your wheels.

You can’t “convince” a man to feel what he feels.

Learn what it takes for a man to fall in love with you and ONLY you, and how to keep his commitment to you for the long-term by reading this:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

Tell me if it sounds familiar…

You’re hanging out talking with some friends, when all of a sudden the conversation turns to a common topic - love and relationships.

And each woman at the table starts talking about the situation she’s in and all the amazing things about it.

At first you’re enjoying the stories and you’re happy for your friends.

But then it hits you…

You are the only person there who ISN’T in an ongoing positive relationship.

Everyone else at the table has someone in their life who they’re excited and optimistic about.

Everyone else has something “real.”

Everyone except you.

You’re ALONE… and that guy who you “date”, without the relationship going anywhere, well - he doesn’t cut it.

So you stop for a second and think,

“Maybe it’s me…”

“Maybe it’s not all because of the way men are, but how I am. That explains why I don’t have real love in my life.”

As you think about this for a second, you can’t help but feel a little lonely all of a sudden, and a small twinge of sadness wells up inside.

But as these feelings start to grow, you know inside that you deserve better, and you wish the feeling would just go away.

But it doesn’t… and the last thing you want to do is “go there” in front of your friends.

Especially since they just got through telling all of their great stories.

You don’t want them to know how you really feel right now… and you wish this feeling and problem would just go away.

You think to yourself:

“Why does love and a relationship with a man have to be so difficult?”

“If only men weren’t so difficult to be with.”

But then your “protective” side kicks in, and you start fighting these feelings and tell yourself:

“I don’t need a man.”

“I’m happy with my life as it is.”

“I’m happy to be single and focus on myself right now, instead of wasting my time and energy in a dead-end situation with a man.”

“Men are all screwed up and trouble anyway, and I don’t need that in my life right now.”

Ahhhh… it starts to work and you calm down and regain your “cool.”

But somewhere deep down inside, you know why you felt sad -

Seeing all your friends happy in their love lives reminded you of something…

For all the reasons you have to be happy, and all the ways you can convince other people (and yourself) that you’re fulfilled, you REALLY DO want something much, much better.

You want a REAL CONNECTION.

You want to share REAL LOVE and BE LOVED.

And you wonder how long you can avoid the reality that these things are MISSING from your life by staying busy and taking care of other areas of life.

You know you can’t go on this way forever.

Something has to change.

There HAS to be something better out there for you. Or else what’s it all for?

But then you remember…

It’s been months, maybe even years, since you’ve actually made the time and space in your life to meet and connect with the kind of man who could bring great things back into your love life.

And in fact, the idea of “dating” sounds like a complete and utter NIGHTMARE.

Sitting through a date listening to some bozo, who has no idea how to really connect with you, ramble on about himself, would just make you feel even more hopeless and alone.

So you’ve basically shut out of your life the idea of dating and going out with men for more than friendship.

But then how are you supposed to meet and connect with a great guy?

And how did EVERYONE ELSE around you manage to become CLOSE and COMMITTED with a good guy, while you’re having an impossible time finding a guy who isn’t totally clueless?

Do they know something you don’t?

Are you just UNLUCKY in love… and not meant to have a great relationship for yourself?

Are they somehow more attractive than you are?

Why does it have to be so difficult?

And why does it have to be such a “game”?

***End of story**

Ok, I know I got a little “heavy” on you there, but it’s for your own good.

This story is basically a myth… a collection of common situations, fears, beliefs, etc., that women experience.

And in case you didn’t notice, a lot of what was going on here in the story had to do with a woman’s own limiting thoughts, frustrations and negative beliefs about men, dating and relationships.

If you identified with a few of these thoughts, fears, etc., then I want you to recognize something…

Some women have VERY FEW of these negative and limiting thoughts.

While other women have TONS.

I’m talking 10, 20, 30 and 50 times a day here.

And what do you think that does for a woman?

Or for you?

Let’s try something new today - an exercise.

Take a second and imagine something for me…

Picture in your mind a woman you know who’s either single or in a “troubled” relationship.

Make sure you have a clear picture of her in your mind.

Now I want you to imagine her having negative thoughts and fears like the ones we’ve been talking about here.

In fact, I also want you to give her some of the fears and negative thoughts that you have.

And now… concentrate on how these thoughts make her FEEL and ACT.

See how they affect her emotions, her attitude and even her body language.

I’ll give you a second to picture this clearly in your mind…

Ok, now imagine a situation comes up for her uncertain situation with the man in her life.

Picture her emotions, her thoughts and how she communicates to the man in her life in your head.

I’ll give you a second to think about this and imagine it happening in your mind.

…

…

I’ll give you another minute.

Ok, come on back.

Now, I want you answer a question for me -

How did all of her negative thoughts affect how she interacted with her guy?

Did they help guide her to positive and constructive communication that brought them CLOSER together?

Or did it tend to make communication with him MORE DIFFICULT and create DISTANCE?

I’m sure you came up with all kinds of fascinating insights and realizations, but here’s what I want you to see here…

Communicating from a place of fear and insecurity with a man will more often create DISTANCE than it will bring you and him together.

Unless the guy you’re with is ALREADY an expert at communicating and dealing with these things himself.

If only men were experts when it came to having open, lasting relationships and communicating in ways that would bring you closer, right?

Wouldn’t that be nice.

Well, the truth is men are RARELY experts in these areas.

And sure… a man COULD come along and be such a wonderful and amazing guy that he would help make relationships and communicating easier.

But if that doesn’t happen, or the great guy you do find doesn’t happen to have these natural skills and abilities (and by the way, most men don’t)…

Then guess what?

It’s up to YOU.

He’s not going to make it work FOR YOU.

In fact, the reality is that as you are first becoming close with a man, he’s more likely to trigger your own fears than to help resolve them.

I’m not telling you about this right now just because I’m trying to teach you some “mumbo jumbo” about how thoughts, energy and intention work together…

(Which they do.)

But for another simple reason -

There’s something you can do right now to DRAMATICALLY improve the level of connection and intimacy you have in your love life.

It all starts in one place.

Paying attention to HOW YOU THINK.

On a basic level, your own patterns of THINKING and FEELING lead to the ACTIONS you take and the BEHAVIOR you display.

And guess what can create a “negative filter” on your THINKING and FEELINGS?

FEAR.

And if you’re finding that your actions and behaviors aren’t “naturally” attracting good men and creating healthy long-term relationships…then you’ve got something to look at right now -

Your own thoughts and emotions, and your own fears.

And, of course, you could worry about HIS ISSUES too, but let’s save working on him for later when you’re up to speed on all this for yourself.

GETTING PAST FEAR, “CONNECTING” ON A DEEP LEVEL, AND MAKING MEN ADDICTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP…

Ok, let’s get to some real ANSWERS here.

What do you DO when you have negative, fearful, limiting thoughts and situations going on in your mind that are affecting your love life?

Well, I’m not going to tell you that all women who are single or in “dead-end” relationships are in that place in their life JUST BECAUSE they think and feel in “fear-based” and “self-limiting” ways.

But do the math.

What kind of women do you think men “naturally” gravitate towards?

What kind of women do you think men “instinctively” feel good when they’re around, even if they don’t know why?

What kind of women do you think men understand, on a subconscious level and make great long-term partners?

Right again.

Women who are in CONTROL of their own fears and emotions when it comes to men, dating and relationships.

Why?

It’s NOT because feelings and emotions are themselves bad…

Feelings and emotions are probably the most beautiful part of what makes us human and allows us to experience the world in a deep and meaningful way.

But, what I’m talking about here is NEGATIVE feelings.

Because negative feelings, more often than not, lead to NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES.

And women who are in CONTROL of their EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES and who have a handle on their own emotional state, know how to do something that other women can’t and will never be able to fake…

They know how to consistently create more POSITIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES with men.

On one level, it really is that simple.

In practice, it’s much harder.

In my “ Catch Him & Keep Him” ebook I’ve devoted 3 ENTIRE CHAPTERS to the subject of creating the optimum “emotional fitness” for a successful relationship with a man.

You’ll learn the SCIENCE behind emotions, how to take your own Emotional Ownership, and Emotional Display Rules - the “do’s and don’ts” for creating new emotional AND intellectual wisdom before you act in certain situations with a man.

You can download it and be reading it right now by going here:

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So let’s get on now to ATTRACTION.

The truth is that men are attracted to one woman and not another largely because of the way that one woman makes them FEEL.

And NOT because of what logically sound qualities each person and the relationship has.

ATTRACTION and CONNECTION have their own “logic.”

I’ll say it again so you can really hear it this time -

A man is attracted to a woman and wants to be with her, and only her, because of the way he FEELS when he’s around her.

And not for any other reason.

Not even if the women is the most loving, caring, sweet, generous, and intelligent woman in the world.

I’m even going to “translate” this for you so you’re sure to start seeing it more clearly -

Translation: The emotional experiences that a man has when he’s around a woman are the single most powerful reasons why he either wants a long-term relationship, or doesn’t.

And to make this even more clear, let me tell you what this DOESN’T mean…

It DOESN’T mean that a man wants to be with a woman because he VALUES a relationship and having true love in his life.

Or that a woman can be so good to a man and do so many loving and generous things for him that he recognizes the LOGICAL value of staying with her and makes the “right” decision.

Feelings and emotions have their own logic, which has NOTHING to do with what makes “sense” or what is “fair.”

And the sooner you accept this as true about men, the easier EVERYTHING in your love life and relationship will become.

CREATING A DEEP LEVEL OF “EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION” THAT WILL LEAD TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

So how do you make a man FEEL when he’s around you?

What are the conscious and subconscious emotional reactions and responses he’s likely to be having with you, based on your emotions and your behavior?

Take a minute and think about it.

…

…

Here’s the bottom line:

A woman who can communicate to a man on a deeper level that she’s AWARE and IN CONTROL of her own experience and “emotional” state will make a man feel INTENSE ATTRACTION for her on that same emotional level.

She’s an “emotionally attractive” woman, which can tell a man all kinds of things about her BEYOND the PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and interest he might have.

On the other hand…

Women who DON’T have a handle on these things have quite a different effect on men -

These women can still usually make men feel PHYSICAL ATTRACTION… but they often set off all kinds of conscious and subconscious “warning signs” in a man’s mind.

Signals that then become FEELINGS and EMOTIONS inside the man that tell him to RUN.

And under no circumstance commit himself and attach his emotional experience to hers.

Here’s the strangest part about women who send off these “warning signals” to men…

Most women do this largely BY ACCIDENT.

That’s right. Lots of women actually trigger negative responses inside a man’s mind while doing things they think are FOR THE GOOD of the relationship.

How’s that for COUNTERPRODUCTIVE?

And hey… I know it might bother you to hear some of what I’m saying. And that you probably have been more caring and generous with your thoughts and emotions in your past situations with men than they were with you.

I get that.

But someone needs to tell you how men really and truly think when it comes to women and relationships.

And of course men have their own specialized set of “baggage” and fears too.

But let me ask you…

What do you know, FROM EXPERIENCE, will happen if a man doesn’t deal with his own fears about women and relationships?

DISASTER.

I’m talking withdrawal, break-ups, cheating, lying, etc.

The list goes on.

But if a guy takes the time and develops the “emotional maturity” to think about the negative and limiting fears HE HAS about women and relationships…

And finds a healthy level of AWARENESS and CONTROL around these…

Then this is the kind of guy that women will “naturally” be drawn to and enjoy being with.

Your first step to creating a situation with a man where you BOTH feel the level of connection that will create and support a lasting relationship is to accept that MEN DON’T MAKE SENSE.

Why?

Because remember, our EMOTIONS don’t follow a logical or “rational” path.

If you’re interested in learning more about what I call “Emotional Attraction” - which is the kind of attraction and desire in a man that goes BEYOND PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, then I’d suggest you go check out my “Natural & Lasting Attraction” CD/DVD program.

This program is the world’s first complete guide and reference on how to create both that initial “connection” and LASTING LONG-TERM ATTRACTION…

While showing you how to deal with all of the common relationship-ending obstacles you’ll run into with men, and within yourself, along the way.

Inside this 7-hour program, I cover everything from the psychological foundations of how and why a man becomes connected and attracted to a woman for a lasting relationship…

To exactly what to do in the frustrating situation where you start getting closer and more connected with a man, but then he starts to withdraw and act MORE DISTANT as time goes on.

By the way, the material in this program is all NEW MATERIAL that wasn’t covered in my eBook, if you’ve already read it.

But let me ask you…

Wouldn’t it be great to know the specific emotional and verbal “strategies” of women who seem to effortlessly and “naturally” attract men?

In this program I get deep into these areas and teach you how to keep that deep level of connection and intimacy growing with a man - in a way that will have HIM initiating the growth, too.

That way it’s not always you feeling like you have to “drive” your relationship to get where you’re going.

You’ll know how to help him “take the wheel” too… and love every minute of it.

I also focus on the common negative or counterproductive “strategies” that LOTS of women take on when things don’t seem to be moving forward.

Seeing these common negative strategies, learning where they come from, and figuring out how to avoid them is CRITICAL.

Knowing exactly what NOT TO DO will bring you the CLARITY you’ve been looking for with men, and save you tons of wasted time and energy in your love life.

Here’s the thing…

I spent a good portion of this program focusing on helping you to identify YOUR OWN specific fears and frustrations with men and relationships that are holding you back right now -

Some of which I’ve already had you take a short
look at here.

Inside this program I walk you through powerful guided exercises to help you clearly recognize your own important “trouble spots.”

Then I show you how to immediately turn them into POSITIVE action steps and INSTANTLY change your old relationship and communication patterns into positive results and outcomes.

But you don’t have to listen to me - some GUY telling you all this.

You can watch REAL VIDEOS of REAL WOMEN, who experienced this program live, tell you their stories and what they got out of the program as a woman.

Follow the link below, go to the bottom of the page and watch the videos there - and let me know what you think:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

I’m so sure you’re going to get MASSIVE RESULTS and take your love life, perspective, and AWARENESS to the next level with this program that I’ll do something special here…

I’m going to let you try out the program for 30 days without paying a thing.

Zero.

I’ll ship you your copy of the CDs or DVDs for to you work with for 30 whole days.

If you don’t get everything you thought you’d get out of the program and more, simply let me know and you won’t pay a thing.

No hassles.

So what do you have to lose?

Not much.

But what you have to gain could mean everything to your future love life and relationship.

Natural and Lasting Attraction

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. Getting a guy “addicted” to you doesn’t happen because you’re the most beautiful woman he knows, or the smartest, or the most “together” and successful.

It happens because of the way he experiences you on an EMOTIONAL level, not necessarily JUST on a physical or intellectual level.

A man’s not going to think, “Oh my god, I have to have this woman in my life!” because you’ve impressed him with your intellectual prowess or because you have great abs.

Ok - maybe he’ll want you “for now” because he’ll be physically attracted to you, but he’s not going to be thinking about a long-term “serious” relationship with you because of those reasons.

There’s only one reason a man will become literally addicted to you for life. And that’s because he feels a strong EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION to you.

And the way to create that is explained in detail right here:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

If you’re in a relationship with a man who doesn’t seem to know what he wants, because he tells you you’re “amazing” one minute but doubts your “future together” the next…

Or…

If you have a great connection with a man you met online but you haven’t met IN PERSON yet and you’re wondering how much to trust his “feelings” for you…

You won’t want to miss reading this insight-filled email.

>>>>Letter From A Reader

Hi Christian,

I dated a guy for exactly one year–three times during that year he ended our relationship citing I deserved better, or more and that he just can’t commit to anyone.

He had a terrible marriage and married her twice. We both have children and agreed they wouldn’t be brought into this unless we felt there was a future together. Not long after, HE introduced me to his children–much to my surprise, then he met mine and they all met each other. Everything was so incredible.

Three weeks ago he came over and said we needed to talk.

He told me that for the first time in his life he had glimmers of feelings for someone (me) and how amazing I am with his kids and it blows him away–how he had never had such a sense of peace in life than when with me. He told me how great we are together, how everything we do is so amazing.

He stayed the night and in the morning, he ended our relationship–again saying I deserved more, he didn’t think he could commit to me and that his gut feeling told him I wasn’t the one for him!?? I have never pressured him in any way for commitment-just monogamy, which is what he wanted and was the first to bring that up when we decided to date exclusively.

I know that morning, I put him on the spot because after a year I was more than a little tired of the roller coaster ride I was on with him starting and ending things-he always ended them after we had an amazing weekend together. I told him that morning that I had fallen in love with him, but I agreed that if he didn’t want to be with me, then it was best to end it.

I want to be with someone who wants to be with me-he said he was on the fence. I am completely heart broken. He has called me almost every day since. He is very flirtatious on the phone, and we have seen each other twice. The second time he spent the night. Again, he told me how great we are together, yet this week he has been a little more aloof.

Is there anything I can do? Ending my marriage of 10 years was a cakewalk compared to being without him. I really need to hear from you if you get the chance. Please, I am begging for your help.

- A.

>>>>>My Response

Ok, A,

I have a couple of ideas about what’s going on here.

First, I think you made the right move when you told him that it was best to end things if he was acting like he didn’t want to be with you.

That’s because the LAST thing you want to do when a man is acting like he doesn’t know what he wants is to try to CONVINCE him that he should want YOU.

If you’ve read my eBook, “ Catch Him & Keep Him,” you already know that being a Convincer when a man is Resisting a real relationship with you is a guaranteed attraction-KILLER.

I write about this in detail in Chapter 3, so if you haven’t downloaded your copy, I strongly suggest you do it right now and re-read that entire chapter, particularly pages 103-107.

Again, you can download my eBook now right here:

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Now, let me offer you a little bit of insight here about what your boyfriend might be thinking.

You say that he keeps telling you that you’re “amazing” over and over, but he just can’t COMMIT to you.

What this man is telling you is that he is very ATTRACTED to you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to have a real, committed RELATIONSHIP with you.

Here’s where a lot of women get confused.

And I don’t blame them, actually.

Men can be confusing.

One minute you’re “amazing” and the next minute, they’re pushing you away.

What’s up with that??!

What’s confusing to many women is the idea that a man can be attracted to you, want to be physical with you, and may even express some kind of “feelings” for you, but may NOT want to have a FUTURE with you.

But that can happen. And that seems to be EXACTLY what’s going on here.

He may like spending time with you and being intimate with you, but isn’t interested in taking things further than that - for whatever reason.

Your boyfriend enjoys your company and the way you make him feel “at peace”, but he ISN’T experiencing the kind of GUT-LEVEL attraction and the kind of feelings he needs to have in order to want to make a life-long commitment to you.

He’s probably having doubts about a long-term relationship with you.

He may be asking himself if it’s the right time.

If you’re the right woman.

If his life would be better with you, than without you.

And then there’s the matter of him breaking it off with you, but continuing to call and wanting to see you once in a while.

When he’s with you, he has doubts about your relationship for whatever reason.

But when he’s apart from you, he realizes that the experience he really wants with a woman isn’t so easy to find.

Dating can be frustrating for men, too, in case you didn’t know that ;-)

And men get lonely, too.

He sits around thinking about you and how “welcoming” you are when he calls you or wants to see you. And he misses you.

So he calls you, or gets together with you.

But when he’s with you, all those doubts and all the reasons WHY he knows he can’t commit to you come rushing right back.

Now, don’t get me wrong.

I’m sure you’re a great woman. You probably have a lot going for you.

It’s just that for some reason, he’s just not feeling what he needs to feel in order to make the conscious decision that you’re “the one” for him.

There’s a huge difference in being a woman a man will spend time with, or being the kind of woman who makes a man feel so incredible when he’s around her that he doesn’t ever want to be without her.

The difference is all in the EMOTIONS he feels when he’s around you.

No matter how much you want a relationship to work, or try to make it work from your end, a man has his OWN reasons and his own timelines for committing to one woman.

There can be lots of reasons why a man commits. But ALL of these reasons, and I do mean ALL OF THEM, stem from one simple thing -

And that’s the EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE a man has when he’s with you.

So what experience are you creating with your man?

Is he feeling that magic and intense emotion we call ATTRACTION when he’s around you?

Are you triggered these intense, fun, playful and loving feelings in him?

Or are you, in the desire to have something more, actually making your experience together feel more like “work” and trouble than love and fun?

I’ll tell you some reasons why he WOULDN’T commit to you -

He won’t do it because you keep being “nice” and agreeing to see him whenever he wants to see you.

That’s just a twist on the Convincer role, and it never works.

He also won’t decide it’s “real” for him because of a few “amazing weekends” together being physically intimate.

He won’t want to be with you and ONLY you because you finally give him an ULTIMATUM or “break up” with him out of frustration.

No, that isn’t how commitment works for a man.

He’ll commit to you when he feels that his life will be BETTER with you in it, every day.

It needs the relationship to FEEL RIGHT for him on a deep, emotional level.

In my “From Casual To Committed” CD/DVD program, I will show you how to get in touch with that part of a man that will get him to FEEL, not “think”, that you’re the one for him - now and always.

You’ll learn:

• The deadly mistake nearly all women make that makes a guy put his guard up INSTANTLY. and refuse to take it down (If you’ve ever had a guy completely disappear from your life after having “the talk” with him, it’s probably because you made this common mistake)
• How to understand and control your own internal conflicts and emotions, so you don’t make mistakes that you WOULDN’T have made if you didn’t care so much about the situation
• How to tell if your relationship is where it should be (Many women make the mistake of thinking things are moving too slow with a man when in reality they are going just fine. Here’s exactly how to know when you can relax, and when you need to make something happen)
• And much more.

So what are you going to do?

Keep wondering why your guy isn’t wanting more, and keep resisting and fighting this reality?

Or are you going to stop hoping that he comes around and start creating the experience and the relationship in the HERE and NOW with him that he won’t ever want to be without?

If you’re finally ready to never again be in the awful and painful position of trying to convince a man to want a relationship with you…

And you’re ready to start enjoying the feeling of your man feeling so open and free with you that he can’t help but want more of your time and attention, and BEG YOU for a commitment…

Then go here now to discover how a man recognizes you as the one woman he is comfortable committing to and try my “From Casual To Committed” program free for 30 days:

From Casual to Committed

Good luck, and let me know how it turns out.

Now here’s another letter from a reader with a very different concern:

>>>>Letter From A Reader

Hello Christian,

I have recently been talking to someone I met online and he tells me, after only 2 weeks of communicating how much he feels love for me in his heart.

I am very attracted as I have already seen his pictures and have responded in kind to his affections with my own philosophy of what love means. He has expressed a wonderful connection to me as a result of this. Part of me is still uncertain as we have not met yet. I am hopeful however that it can grow for me as it has for him so easily.

I have never met anyone that has expressed himself so easily. I want to be able to trust that he is not just desperate and lonely!

Thank you, and appreciate the new CD you have out!

- J.

>>>> MY RESPONSE

Hey J,

Ok, so let me get this straight.

You’ve been “talking” online to a guy for 2 weeks and he’s already expressed “love” for you.

But you haven’t met.

And you’re not sure what you feel for him.

But you hope that your feelings for him grow as easily as his have for you.

Yikes!

You’re setting yourself up for what could be a potentially disastrous situation.

And I’m not talking about the possibility that this guy MIGHT be some kind of “desperate” or dangerous weirdo. That’s beside the point.

(Which could definitely happen, and you wouldn’t be the first woman who was “duped” by some guy who misrepresented himself online.)

No, I’m talking about the potential for you to waste precious time and emotional energy on a man you might not be attracted to AT ALL if and when you DO meet in person.

That happens all the time.

I wish I could tell you how many times I’ve heard this story…

You meet a man online, and you hit it off right away because he happens to be very expressive, witty, charming, “real” and interested in you.

Suddenly you find yourself having feelings for someone you’ve never laid eyes on (pictures don’t count) and thinking about him all the time.

The longer you “talk” online, the more attached you get.

Getting an email or IM from him is one of the highlights of your day.

Then the day comes that you finally meet for a drink or coffee or whatever, and.

IT’S A TOTAL LETDOWN!

He isn’t AT ALL what you thought he would be.

6′1″ is really 5′6″.

“Athletic” body type is really “couch-like.”

And he’s not as witty, or charming, or funny. He’s a little “off” in a way you can’t quite put your finger on.

He doesn’t look quite as attractive as he did in his photos (from the late 1980’s).

And there’s something about the way he moves and talks that’s a downright TURN-OFF!

So - depending on how much time and energy you’ve spent building up “feelings” for this guy online, that’s the level of your shock and disappointment.

Why