Here goes…

Ever notice how a man will “court” you, pursue you, and do all kinds of amazing and romantic things to win your heart as you’re getting to know each other…

But, after a little while, the romance, passion, and intimacy that he used to create and be so excited about starts to “fizzle out” once you’re into a committed relationship?

If you’ve ever found yourself in a situation with a man who you knew was a great guy but he started acting immature, depended on you for too many things (and didn’t appreciate you for them), and all the while you kept giving more and more to try and make things work better and keep you closer… then you don’t want to miss this email.

I’m about to let you know the real reasons why men in relationships so often act this way… and what to do about it.

I’m also about to explain why so many women end up in unfulfilling relationships with men who “TAKE TAKE TAKE”, and why these women so often end up getting little back for all their efforts.

First off, tell me if this sounds at all familiar…

You meet a great guy and you start dating.

The “chemistry” is simply AMAZING and you can’t believe how into connecting and sharing he is… even on that emotional level where other men often fall flat.

You spend time together and keep growing closer, and you start to believe that maybe you’ve finally found that amazing friend, companion and lover all in one.

He’s so open and caring… listens and pays attention to you and what’s going with you in a way that few men you’ve met can.

Your connection is unbelievable.

You both know you can count on each other in ways that feel like you’re closer than you have been with a man in a long, long time.

Since you’re both so close, he starts to depend on you for a few things in his life… and you’re happy to help him since you really care about him and are a generous and loving person.

But, as time goes on, something starts to slowly “shift.”

It starts with small things…

He starts acting a little differently, and stops doing a lot of the things he used to do that made you admire and respect him.

Somehow, he seems less confident, present, and “connected” with you.

And then you notice…

There’s something different about how he depends on you, and it sets off your “radar.”

You start to wonder if how he is with you is entirely healthy.

You start to feel “drained” with him and with the relationship more and more… but you know that a relationship is about give and take, so you keep giving and have faith that things are going fine.

More time passes and you start to notice something else…

You see that he isn’t becoming more appreciative of all the things you’re doing for him and your relationship.

In fact, it feels like he’s starting to take more and more of it for granted.

Actually, he seems LESS APPRECIATIVE of you and your relationship in general.

He starts asking and depending on you even more, without any real thanks or reciprocation.

The more he does this, the more you sense that there’s a kind of needy “childishness” inside him that’s becoming clearer.

You want to be there for him and be a great partner… but you also want that fun, strong, playful, loving, confident man back who was there before things changed.

With all this going on, you’re not exactly sure of what to do about it or what’s going on for him that’s making him act this way.

He doesn’t seem to pay you the same attention, give the same affection and support that you give him, and it’s starting to feel unfair and bother you.

Your relationship is starting to feel like it’s all about making sure “he’s” happy.

Which of course doesn’t leave much room for what’s going on for YOU.

You know things can’t go on this way if your relationship is going to work and be something worthwhile and “real.”

He’s got to see what’s going on and stop being so self-involved.

You know that he’s had some challenges in his own life and maybe he just doesn’t see what’s going on. So, you decide to not make a big deal out of it. But, you know that something needs to change… soon.

So, you finally decide to talk to him about what’s going on.

You go over in your head again and again what you’re going to say to him and what’s been going on for the last several months.

You’re sure that he’ll see what’s been happening and all the things you’ve been doing for him and the relationship, and he’ll give you some understanding.

But when you talk to him, it doesn’t work out this way… AT ALL.

Instead of hearing you and your intentions to get things back to a better place between you two, he just becomes frustrated, irritated and DEFENSIVE with you.

Instead of hearing you, he makes you feel like you’re “nagging” him and creating “drama.”

He even acts like you’re the one being ridiculous and withdraws from you.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

This situation where you know you’re giving and getting less than nothing back STINKS.

And unfortunately, it’s a common experience lots of women have in relationships with men.

Now, there are about 50 things I could tell you about how men are at fault and create these problems for themselves and for you in your relationship.

But the reality is that you’ve already spent hours thinking about this before and have a lot of your own ideas about it.

That is partially why I’m NOT going to talk about what’s going on with men here and what to do about it.

At least not yet.

Right now we’re going to talk about YOU.

Why?

Because thinking about YOURSELF is the first step towards real GROWTH and AWARENESS in EVERY RELATIONSHIP you have in your life.

You could spend days, weeks, months or years worrying about a man, what he thinks, and why he does the things he does.

But if you want to be smart…

And you want relationships to start “working” for you, instead of seeming like a neverending source of frustration and disappointment trying to get a man to make the relationship work…

Then you’ll make sure you have things handled for yourself first.

And that way you’ll have the CERTAINTY that only comes from understanding what’s happening in the relationship around you… and what YOU need to do in each situation that comes up with a man.

THE ONE QUESTION THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN INSTANTLY

If you’re at the most basic levels of what I call “emotional maturity” in your life, then you’ve started to recognize something very important and significant about yourself…

You’ve recognized that you have a few PATTERNS coming up in your relationships.

Of course, some of these patterns are positive traits that bring benefits, center around your personal preferences, and involve things you bring into your life CONSCIOUSLY and for good reason.

But the reality is these aren’t the only kind of patterns you have in your life.

You also have a special group of “negative patterns.”

Patterns that you save just for MEN.

So, let me ask you a very simple question.

It’s a question that could very well change the course of your love life IMMEDIATELY once you answer it.

Here’s the question -

Do you know your “negative patterns” in relationships with men?

You might have a few of these that you already know about that you can rattle off in your head right now without really thinking about it.

THESE ARE NOT THE PATTERNS I’M LOOKING FOR TO IMPROVE YOUR LOVE LIFE.

You already know about these patterns and this knowledge still doesn’t seem to be helping you if you’re running into the same issues and situations again and again.

Which is why it’s obvious that “what” you already know isn’t going to help you learn and grow past these situations with men for good.

You need to expand your PERSPECTIVE.

That’s why I’m looking for the patterns that you DON’T see right now, and that you aren’t CONSCIOUS of.

Here’s where we’re going to take ACTION…

Right now, I want you to give yourself the time and space for the next 5 minutes to think about your own patterns in your past or present relationships with men.

And, I want you to put everything else aside just for a few short moments while you focus on YOURSELF.

By the way, if you don’t have time to do this now, then you probably never will.

And I know it’s a simple question, but the AWARENESS and GROWTH that can come from your answer is what’s going to change your love life immediately.

So now that you’ve made the time, I want you to think about the following -

I want you to come up with at least TWO of your own negative relationship patterns with men.

And I don’t just mean patterns that are really about men… such as “I always pick men who are clueless about loving relationships.”

This is focusing on HIM, not YOU.

I mean something like “I meet men and quickly spend all my time with them. But soon I see that I’ve “lost myself” and I am not able to have a healthy balance. And inevitably, we end up breaking up and I resent all the time I spent on the relationship and him, instead of spending more time on myself.”

That’s one common example lots of women have experienced.

Now, it’s your turn.

I want you to come up with 2 other patterns that have to do with YOU and things that come from YOUR THINKING or BEHAVIOR.

I’m going to give you a few minutes to do it now.

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I’m going to give you another minute to make sure you have your two patterns.

OK. So now you have two clear patterns of your own in your head.

Take out a pen and a piece of paper right now and write down the patterns you identified.

Do it now, I’ll wait.

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Good.

I want you to keep this piece of paper somewhere you can look at it again in a few days or weeks.

It will be important to look at what you wrote down again at least once in the next few days.

DEVELOPING CONSCIOUSNESS TO MOVE PAST YOUR NEGATIVE AND SELF-DEFEATING “PATTERNS” IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN

Now that you’ve got your two negative patterns, here’s where things are going to start coming together for you…

First, I need you to get away from a dangerous kind of thinking that ALL WOMEN engage in when it comes to men, dating and relationships.

I call it “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

Do you know any women who talk about how their relationship is hopeless and a complete failure…

And then a few hours or days later they have shifted 180 degrees to where EVERYTHING is great?

What does this say about the woman who thinks and feels this way?

What kind of relationship and communication “skills” does a woman like this have?

And how do you think a man experiences this kind of thinking and behavior… and what does it say to him about a woman?

Of course, this is an extreme example of “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

Unfortunately, the more common “All-or-Nothing Thinking” is subtle and difficult to recognize.

Especially when YOU are the one having the thoughts.

So, let me ask you…

When you look at your pattern, is there a negative trait or habit of yours that stands out as the one that gets you into trouble the most?

I’m certain there is.

I want you to identify at least one of your greatest WEAKNESSES that shows up in your life through your negative patterns.

I’ll give you a minute to write this down next to the pattern it’s associated with.

Go ahead.

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OK. Now there’s something I want you to think about…

It makes sense to cut this negative trait or habit that’s associated with your pattern out of your relationship and behavior with a man…right?

It’s caused a lot of these problems… right?

If you cut these traits or qualities out of the way you are in a relationship with a man, then things will be better… right?

WRONG.

What if the problems that come up in your negative pattern are caused by these traits?

And what if the traits in your negative pattern didn’t represent just your personal WEAKNESSES?

What if they ALSO represented your personal STRENGTHS at the same time?

If you were thinking that you should get rid of the trait or quality entirely that’s involved in your negative pattern so that things will work better in the future… then you’re going to that place of “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

Talk about throwing out the baby with the bath water.

Over the years I’ve recognized that there’s a fascinating mistake TONS of people make in relationships, in business, and in every aspect of life…

When something isn’t working and they want to fix a problem, they don’t look at the entire “system” around them.

Instead, they focus their attention on the “symptoms” they see, in isolation.

Some people complain about “Western Medicine” having the same shortcoming. That it only addresses symptoms, instead of taking a “holistic” approach to how everything works together.

Anyway… when a person is trying to fix a problem in a relationship, by not seeing the entire “system” going on around them, they can’t see how all the elements are inter-connected.

So, when they go to make a change, they think they can change what’s related to the symptoms and everything will work better.

This is like thinking blowing your nose will cure a cold.

What’s worse, often times the things that people change not only don’t work to fix the problem…

But ends up making things WORSE by affecting all the other related and inter-connected things that WERE WORKING.

Talk about COUNTERPRODUCTIVE.

Don’t start solving problems and changing your relationship when you can only see the “symptoms.”

There’s a better way.

You need to start looking at the whole “system” of how you and a man connect and communicate in your relationship.

You need to develop your own “holistic” approach.

Then you’ll have the PERSPECTIVE to make choices and take action that will bring more connection and understanding into your life.

So how can you start to see your own relationship with a man as the “system” that it is?

And how can you avoid the dead end strategy of trying to cover up the “symptoms”?

Here’s a step towards this that you can take RIGHT NOW…

I’m going to get you out of the habit of using your destructive “All-or-Nothing Thinking.”

I want you to look at your trait or traits again that were your own WEAKNESSES in your negative relationship pattern.

Now I want you to try something that might seem strange at first.

I want you to identify at least one way in which your trait or habit in your negative relationship pattern is also a STRENGTH.

I’ll give you a minute to see how the very trait that you just identified as a WEAKNESS is also a STRENGTH.

I want you to write the STRENGTH down right now next to the pattern it’s associated with.

Go ahead. I’ll give you a few minutes.

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OK, good.

There’s a lot of power and AWARENESS created in what you just did when you think about it - IF you stay aware of this when you’re interacting with a man in your relationship.

When you see how your WEAKNESSES, that you’ve been giving yourself a hard time about and trying to figure out how to get rid of, are also part of your STRENGTHS… things you never could have understood will start to become clear to you.

Challenges, issues, attitudes, and hurtful things that a man brings to you that relate to your patterns, will start to look differently to you…

And you’ll start to have an amazing sense of CLARITY about what’s the best thing to do for you, for him, and for your relationship.

A “STRANGE TRUTH” ABOUT THE PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS YOU ATTRACT IN LIFE AND LOVE

You’ve got some basic tools to work with now to understand more about what’s going on with you and your relationship.

But it really only starts here.

Are you CLEAR on how these 2 patterns come up in your life?

Do you know how to avoid “All or Nothing Thinking” the next time it comes up and tries tocreate DISTANCE between you and a man?

Do you know where these thoughts come from and what to do to stay conscious and overcome the negative aspects of your other destructive relationship patterns?

Do you know how to guide a man to start doing these same things to improve HIMSELF and the way he is in your relationship, so you don’t have to try and convince him of what’s going on that he can’t see or isn’t paying attention to?

Most women who aren’t in a happy, healthy, loving, lasting relationship don’t have this knowledge and the ability to stay connected with a man that comes along with it.

The strange truth is, patterns aren’t just coincidences in your life.

They keep repeating in your life for a reason.

What are the lessons that keep coming up for you in your love life that you can’t learn from where you are today, but keep coming at you?

The reality is that you have a choice…

You can keep repeating these patterns, and experiencing the pain and frustration that comes with them again and again…

This is the “easy” choice that doesn’t ask or require you to learn and grow at all.

OR…

You can create a “shift” in your life.

You can choose to have more AWARENESS and more GROWTH… which will of course bring new ways of seeing things, and best of all, NEW RESULTS in your relationship.

The choice is yours right now.

There’s a reason why most men pull away and sabotage perfectly good, loving relationships with women.

And there’s a reason why YOUR FEARS are only making these things with a man WORSE.

There are clear steps that you can take to change your love life and relationship, no matter where you are right now with a man.

Shifting your PERSPECTIVE and becoming MORE CONSCIOUS is your first step… some of which we’ve touched on here.

You can stop the unnecessary PATTERNS.

You can come to terms with, and understand, the FEARS.

And you can find out, once and for all, why it is that men so often put up RESISTANCE to becomingmore connected, closer and MORE COMMITTED with YOU on a physical and emotional level.

Don’t let go of this opportunity to have LASTING CHANGE and IMPROVEMENT to the quality of your love life and all your relationships.

If you still haven’t read my Catch Him & Keep Him eBook, you need to do that NOW.

It’s a no-brainer and will quickly have you “in the know” on all kinds of stuff that used to drive you crazy trying to understand about men.

Things like:

-Why some men shy away from commitment, even if things are great… and what to do about it (page 241)

-How men approach “dating”, why it seems like some men want to casually date forever (page 94)

-When and how to have “the talk” with a man, and how to have him even more excited about your future afterwards (p. 247)

Make this the year you finally know what it’s like to have a fun, loving and secure relationship by discovering how to find the right man and make love last.

Download my eBook here:

Catch Him & Keep Him

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Does it seem to you that you frequently meet and get into relationships with men you THOUGHT were going to be right for you, only to discover many months down the road that they’re not, and it causes you a lot of pain and frustration?

A man will often be on his “best behavior” the first 6 months when you’re first dating. It’s often hard to “see” him for who he really is when you’re experiencing a lot of attraction and chemistry.

This is why it’s CRUCIAL for you to figure out early on, before you get too involved, whether or not he’s MATURE ENOUGH to have a good relationship with a woman, and whether he’s ready to be the kind of man you need him to be for you.

In my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program, I reveal the 3 greatest fears most men have about relationships that will put ALL his actions in a new perspective for you.

I’ll also show you the 7 deadly signs of an IMMATURE MAN and the 4 key areas of development men go through in their lives, so you can know from date #1 whether or not he’s really as “together” as you think he is. It’s right here:

Inside The Mind Of A Man

Now, I’d like to answer a question that I hear all the time from women who are getting back out into the dating world after getting divorced or leaving a long-term relationship.

Maybe this is something you’ve been curious about, too.

You’ve met a man who’s over 40.

Let’s say he’s never been married.

He’s got a great career, is fairly successful, and has a lot going on in his life.

You find him very fascinating and attractive, and you think about how much you’d love to have a man like this in your life.

You date him a few times, and he seems like a great guy, but something feels a little “off” in the things he does and says (even though you tried to ignore it or deny it).

He seems a little defensive, a little reserved - specifically when it comes to letting you know how he feels or what he wants from a “relationship.”

He almost seems SCARED or turned off by the idea of anything long-term or “serious.”

He gives you the impression that he’s just into having fun, seeing you once in a while, but he’s not into anything more than that. He doesn’t say it directly, but you have a feeling this guy is just into playing the field.

There are the little clues.

He has dates with other “friends” and always seems to be busy every night of the week.

He never introduces you to his close friends or family, and when he does, you’re just “a friend.”

He likes to do things and hang out in places with a much younger crowd.

You really like this guy, but you know it’s probably hopeless. He is only interested in women to have fun with, and maybe even women much, much younger than you are.

And then there’s the man who WAS married before. Maybe he’s even got kids from his previous marriage or relationship.

He’s loving, responsible, and you sense that he could be a great long-term partner.

You have a great connection and you have a lot in common.

Then suddenly, (and particularly AFTER you’ve had an amazing and intimate time together) he pulls back a little.

He tells you he wants to “go slow” and “not rush into anything serious”, which is fine and you agree.

But then a little while later he completely withdraws and acts like he wants NOTHING to do with a serious relationship after all.

Ouch!

He acts very “into you” one minute, and very loving, then doesn’t call you for days, or acts distracted and distant. You’re confused and hurt, and you don’t know what to do next.

Maybe he gives you a “been-there-done-that” speech, or makes you feel like you’re the “clingy” one who wants so much more than he’s willing to offer.

He leads you to believe that he’s not interested in anything more than being a “good friend” because he’s done the marriage thing, and he’s not into that anymore.

You feel like he’s getting ahead of himself, so you try to let him know that you don’t mind taking it slow, but nothing helps.

You want to date a man who’s close to your age, but a man your age doesn’t seem to want anything real.

It’s like you can’t win!

Which leads you to ask yourself-

Do men over 40 just have more “baggage” when it comes to love and relationships?

Is it virtually impossible to meet a single or divorced man over 40 who wants to settle down with one woman, raise a family, have kids, and have a happy, committed relationship?

A lot of women write me and tell me that it’s their experience that men over 40 just aren’t available for a relationship anymore.

Either the men have been married and don’t want to marry again, or have never been married and don’t intend to in the future, or they’re just looking to have fun.

They seem to be carrying around a bunch of “baggage” from the past, and they’re afraid to have a committed relationship. They want to keep their “freedom.” Maybe they only want to date women half their age.

This is a fascinating phenomenon to me.

Not that men over 40 are being seen as having “baggage,” but that so many women are having this experience with these 40-plus year-old men.

What’s going on here?

And what can you do if you want to have a committed, long-term, quality relationship with a man over 40, but you keep having this negative experience?

I recently sat down with a very bright and insightful woman who is a relationship life coach for women, and I asked her this exact question.

I wanted to know what she had to say because she’s writing a book specifically for women to help them UNDERSTAND men better, as well as helping them select the RIGHT man for them.

Her name is Eve Sharon Hart, and she has a very interesting method for women to use to figure out if the man they’re interested in, dating, or married to is actually a GOOD GUY who is healthy for them and capable of making them happy…

Or, a total DRAIN on their emotional and psychological well being.

But first, here’s what Eve had to say when I asked her if she thought that men over 40 had more baggage:

“We all as human beings look at others according to what they can give us, or what we need from them.

If we push aside our own needs and look at the man as being simply human, we’ll realize we’re identical. We want love, but we’re afraid to take risks because we’ve been wounded.

We have all have baggage from relationships that have broken our heart, on some level. The more wounded we are, the more defensive we can become if we don’t heal those wounds.

If a man acts defensive and cold, and seems to be afraid of love or commitment, that COULD mean that he has all kinds of baggage from a prior relationship. He got hurt. He’s afraid of risking it all and getting hurt again.

If you look at his defenses, they look really annoying and harsh to you. What you may not realize is that you have your OWN set of harsh defenses that may not be as apparent to you.

Hey, don’t get the wrong idea.

You don’t want to get involved with a guy if he doesn’t want to get close to you. But you can have compassion for where he’s coming from.

If you look out there and you see all these men who want to run around and don’t want to be in a committed relationship, usually those men are afraid of falling in love and needing a woman.

It’s ironic, but statistics will show that when a man and a woman are in a long marriage together, and the woman dies, the man will die shortly thereafter.

It’s not true so much for women.

Whereas if the old man dies first, the woman is more resilient and goes on living for years thereafter.

Which shows that men are actually more vulnerable and more afraid to take a risk and be vulnerable and attached to a woman, because he literally fears that he might DIE without her!

If a man isn’t “ready” because he’s still dealing with the baggage from his past, it doesn’t mean that you should wait around for him to “get ready.”

But definitely have some understanding about WHY he’s afraid or why he’s resisting being in a committed relationship.”

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I agree with what Eve had to say about men over 40.

In my experience, men over 40 -just like many women over 40 - have experienced a lot of disappointment and pain in their love lives. In trying to defend themselves against more of that pain, some men may appear to have a lot of “issues” and be callous and selfish.

As humans, we have different ways of dealing with things from our past.

But I also know, (as does Eve) that there are many, many men over 40 who would love nothing more than to find a great woman, commit to her, have kids or help raise a family, and experience true and lasting love in their life.

The key is to RECOGNIZE a great man when you meet one, so you don’t waste your time with a man who may not be “ready” or willing to have a real relationship with you.

Let me tell you something.

Sometimes when you’re feeling that initial attraction, connection and “chemistry,” it’s really difficult to make rational and objective observations about the guy you’re with.

I call this the “Danger of a Connection” and I talk about it in my eBook.

I also think it’s important to understand the stages of maturity men go through in their lives.

It’s not chronological.

You can meet a man who’s 25 years old and already very mature and ready for a loving, committed relationship where BOTH his needs and his partners are important to him.

Or, you can meet a man who’s 45 and still just a “boy” in a lot of ways that affect how he is in a relationship.

If you know what stage of maturity your man is in, you can understand better where he’s coming from and what you can - OR CAN’T DO - to change the way he is in a relationship.

If you’ve ever experienced these with a man:

> He comes on strong at first, but then disappears

> He changes his mind about you in a moment, for apparently no reason

> He talks about wanting to travel and “explore” the world and live an adventurous life (often without you in it)

> He’s controlling and inflexible at times

Then you’ve been experiencing certain symptoms of a man’s maturity level, from a “boy” all the way to a mature and self-possessed “King.” In my program, “Inside The Mind Of A Man”, I explain in detail everything you need to look for when you meet a man to know whether he’s still a self-involved “boy” or whether he’s a purposeful and focused “king.”

I also help you easily and quickly recognize his maturity level by listening to how he talks about sex, what he thinks of his job, and what he does in his spare time.

Why is all this important?

So that you can tell whether or not a man is potentially RIGHT for you early on. This way, you won’t waste many months or years trying to “change” him into something he’s not.

There are 3 profound truths about relationships:

1. The man you CHOOSE is the one you GET.

2. YOU are ultimately responsible for your own love life and selecting the right man

3. You can’t change a man, “make” a man become mature or help him work on his issues. He has to do that in his own way, based on his own internal motivations.

This is why I am going to make an important suggestion and help you by giving you powerful tools for choosing and understanding a man.

If you’re ready to learn what makes a GOOD MAN and what qualities and personality traits signal a mature, “together” man so that you don’t have to wonder if he’s going to be right for you for the long-term.

Then I recommend you let me send you a copy of my Inside The Mind Of A Man program.

You can try this program for yourself for a full month before I ask you to pay anything.

If you’re ready to stop meeting “boys,” jerks and players, and you want to finally be able to say “YES!” to the right man for a change, then you need to get Inside The Mind Of A Man CD or DVD program.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. You may not want to hear this, but I’m going to say it anyway.

If you truly understand men - and that includes how they think and feel in relationships, what their “issues” are, what they love about women and what they can’t run away from fast enough…

Then you wouldn’t be feeling frustrated or sitting around wondering “why did he say that?” or “why is he acting that way?”

It’s time for you to change your life and change the way you see and experience men and relationships.

Once you get “Inside The Mind Of A Man”, you’ll be amazed at how knowing the TRUTH about men and why they do what they do can be the difference between a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment, and a lifetime of disappointments.

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Inside The Mind Of A Man

Of course… he wouldn’t talk to you about it or tell you. He was just quiet and withdrawn.

Trying to figure out what your man is thinking can be a dangerous game.

Not only does trying to figure him out often end up pushing your man away on accident, it usually drives you a little nuts.

Which only makes things worse.

Stop wondering and worrying when you don’t have to anymore. It’s time you got to the heart of the matter and stopped going in circles with men and relationships.

I’ve put together an entire in-depth program all about what men really think, feel and want with women.

And of course I cover why they do those “guy things” that drive so many women crazy in relationships (and how to avoid them yourself).

Check out my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program here now:

Inside the Mind of a Man

Here’s a letter I got recently from a reader that I wanted to respond to…

In my response I share some tips and insights into what’s going on with her man as she’s sensing something wrong but can’t put her finger on it, while he won’t talk to her.

Read on to find out what’s going on…

>>>>Letter From A Reader

Hi Christian

I have read your e-book which has helped answer a lot of my questions about men and relationships. I am also in the process of listening to your “ready for Love” CDs.

I have been having a long distance relationship with a man with whom the chemistry and the connection was amazing from the start. We have been seeing each other for almost 4 months now. We fell in love and he has confessed it so to me. He also has mentioned to me that he feels I am his soul mate.

He travels around the world working for an oil company and during his last trip which has taken a month things are changing. He does not call me as often, does not write emails to me as often and blames it on the time difference and mood differences and being stressed and busy. All started to get worse when in my frustrations I started feeling anxiety and reacting by also not calling him as often and being cold and distant.

Before I started acting this way I did ask why he was not calling and communicated that expectation with him. I think he is pulling away and so not know what to do. I am in love with him and do not know if I should bother him by calling or I should just stand back and wait for him to make his move when ready. He was very attentive and used to call a lot more before even when he was traveling.

Did I act needy? Is there hope? What should I do?

In need of your help.

-A.

>>>>My Response

Ok, I’m glad you asked.

Here’s something you should know-

It is possible for a man to sense what you’re calling “needy” without you even saying anything.

And…

It’s possible that even though your normal feelings of wondering what’s going on aren’t wrong or needy in an unhealthy way… your man might FEEL like you’re being too needy.

The result- he’s not showing you the same level of interest and attraction not because you did something wrong, but because of how he is FEELING.

So what’s the difference between what is actually needy, and what a man thinks is needy and unattractive?

It’s the way you communicate how you’re feeling to him. You might even think of this as the “energy” that you’re bringing to him and your relationship.

I’m going to tell you what’s really going on with a man when this kind of thing is happening.

But first, I need you to do something.

I need you to stop what you’re doing right now.

Then I need you to stop your mind, stop your busy thoughts, and stop trying to “figure everything out.”

I’m going to suggest something you might not understand at first, but I know it’s really going to help.

You’re on the brink of becoming your own worst enemy here.

Why?

Because you’ve got a growing case of what I call the “over-analyzing blues.”

This is when you know there’s something going on with your man that you don’t get.

And since you don’t know what it is, and you’re feeling a bit uncertain about things, something bad starts to happen -

Your mind starts to fill in the blanks of each little thing he does and says with some kind of negative or fearful thought (even if there’s nothing really wrong).

And this creates a negative feedback loop where-

The more you feel uncertain and unnerved by not knowing what’s going on…

The more things feel weird between you…

And thus the worse you feel…

And then the more negative stuff about him and his actions you think and worry about…

And so the more he acts strangely or more distant around you.

The cycle feeds itself and down and down you go.

STOP THE MADNESS.

What you focus on is what you get more of. So if you’re focused on what might be wrong, guess what?

You’re going to not only find something, you’ll create something to be wrong in the meantime- and nothing will happen to make anything BETTER.

I want you to do something right now.

I want you to clear your mind of all your thoughts about him.

I want you to picture yourself sitting in your own personal paradise- whatever or wherever that may be.

It could be on a white sand beach on a tropical island, or it could be on top of a rolling hill looking out over a plain.

Whatever it is, I want you to picture yourself in a place that calms and soothes you.

Now, I want you to picture something for me-

I want you to picture your guy there beside you, with his arms around you.

I want you to picture how loved and cared for and appreciated you feel with him, and how incredible it is when you’re both connected this way.

Go ahead and picture this.

Now, take that feeling that you’re having of the love and connection you feel to him, and take a minute to appreciate what it is that you and he share.

And take a minute to appreciate that feeling and feel GRATEFUL for him and who he is.

Let the love that you feel inside you grow stronger and richer and brighter.

Now that you can feel this love, I want you to think about how your man responds to you when you are this way with him.

Does he reject this kind of feeling from you?

Does he withdraw from this?

No, he doesn’t.

Like other men, he CRAVES being with the woman who is in this place of love, and who brings this incredible and irresistible energy to him.

Now that you see this… let me ask you-

How does this energy and love that you share, which your man craves and is the reason he’s with you… how does that compare to this uncertain and worried energy and over-analyzing that you’re bringing to him and your relationship now?

Think about it for a second.

..

..

And now, think about how this energy could be affecting him?

And how is it affecting you?

And how about your entire relationship?

Here’s the first thing I’m getting at:

What if the reason your man seems to be more distant or different with you isn’t because something is really wrong?

What if the reason is what YOU are bringing to him and your relationship with what you’re thinking and worrying about?

The energy you’re putting out there to him doesn’t sound like it’s the kind that would inspire him to feel energized and passionate around you.

And what do men do when they’re around a woman who’s going through intense emotions that they don’t understand?

What do men do when they don’t know what to do emotionally?

They hang back.

They “play it cool.”

Or they withdraw to a place where it’s easy and there’s no heavy emotional stuff going on.

If you think you might be worrying about your relationship, and you find that this only seems to make your man MORE DISTANT… you might want to put 2 and 2 together here.

He might be feeling disconnected or distant from you because you’ve got so much going on in your head that he doesn’t get or even know about.

Danger! This is where you start turning perfectly healthy and normal situations into the kind of situations men can’t help but be baffled and frustrated by.

And more importantly, if you keep worrying about this and feeling uncertain and turn to him for answers to why you feel the way you do…guess what?

He’s likely not going to stand there with open arms waiting to hear and understand how you feel, and explain himself.

It would be great if men would always do this.

It would be great if a man would always be your “rock”.

What happens when they aren’t?

Should it all fall apart?

The truth is that men don’t often know what’s going with you, or why.

They just know if something feels heavy or intense to them.

And when this heavy energy starts to take over in your relationship… this is where a man will want to ESCAPE.

Which only makes you feel worse and seems to be a signal that something really is wrong.

Or is it?

By the way, I’ve created an all-in-one resource that will show you exactly how men think, what it means when they act the way you’re describing, and what to do about it that will quickly have him feeling CONNECTED and ENGAGED with you like it probably was in the beginning.

Men can and will predictably WITHDRAW once you get down the road in your relationship.

Knowing what this means and how to handle it is what can make all the difference, and can be what separates you from any other woman a man has ever dated by making him feel that you’re the right woman to be with.

Men get that magic “she’s the one” feeling not when they feel like they have to dig into the little things to make your relationship work but when it feels EASY.

Once you know how men really think and feel, it’s not only going to feel easy for him… it’s going to be EASY for YOU to get what YOU WANT in your relationship.

And you having the relationship you want is what this is really all about.

That’s why it’s time you stopped wondering what in the world is going on with men, and stopped feeling stuck or frustrated as the same “issues” keep coming up with them.

What if those issues are things that keep coming up because you haven’t learned how to avoid or move past them?

For all my very best tips and a complete guide to what men think and want when it comes to women, love and relationships, go check out my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program.

In this program I’ll show you:

-The 8 Attraction Killers which are universal with all men

-The 3 Stages of Maturity in a man’s life, and how to identify and understand where your man is, and what this means about how he’ll be with you in your relationship

-What leads men to cheat, and the best ways to PREVENT CHEATING in the first place

-What men really want and need to find in a woman if they’re going to want a long-term, or even lifelong, love affair and relationship with you

-Exactly WHY men so often perceive women and their feelings as NEEDY… and what to say and do so your
man not only listens to you but wants to know more

-And lots more…

There’s so much I want you to know about men that’s going to instantly change the way you see things and shift things for you…

And that’s why I STRONGLY RECOMMEND you go and check out what’s in this program and take me up on
my special offer.

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All you have to do is go here right now and I’ll ship you a copy for you to try for 30 days.

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Oh -

I was really blown away by this email I got the other day and I can’t help but share it with you.

This woman’s love life was changed forever in a few short moments…

>>>>Letter From A Reader

Dear Christian:

Several months ago, I purchased your “Ready for Love” DVD program. It arrived, yet I didn’t open it for several months because I wasn’t “ready” for it.

I am 49 years old and spent 13 years with the man of my dreams (11 of them married). He decided that he didn’t want to be a husband anymore and we divorced in 2004.

For the past three years, I have been making mistakes, either not dating (hiding in my apartment and just being “MOM” to my 13 year old daughter), dating the wrong men or just being downright miserable.

One weekend, when I couldn’t take it anymore, I opened the package and watched 3 of the DVDs. I watched the other 2 the following weekend. I was shocked at how much I learned about myself after viewing your program. I will highlight the three things that were most profound to me and have helped me tremendously:

Being able to articulate what love means to me, how I wanted it, yet blocked my ability to receive it. I have learned how to create a clear definition of what I truly want (this was hard).

Addressing my fears and looking at my behavior that stemmed from my fears, which in turn drew me to the wrong men or sabotaged a potentially good relationship. (”We attract what we project.”)

Understanding that a man is NOT the center of my universe, knowing that I am a goddess and that if I nurture myself more, I will attract and receive what I truly deserve! (thank YOU and Dr. Amir)

Now for the success story — thanks to your program and my newfound bravery, I began communicating with a guy I met online. He was saying all of the right things, but I still found myself a little scared. Nevertheless, by applying your principles, I got up the courage to go out on a date with him. Everything was fantastic, but in the back of my mind, I kept referring to what I learned from your program.

Let’s just say that five weeks later, things are still fantastic between us. We talk a lot, laugh a lot and share special times together. It’s not necessarily about “us” or the “future.” I’m not trying to prove to him how “worthy” I feel because he likes me. He is NOT the center of my universe — I still travel, go to the theater with friends and hang out with my daughter and treat myself like a goddess. However, this is so far the best man that I have met in a very long time. He has shared with me the fact that he feels “lucky”
to have met me! The old me would have wondered what he was feeling so lucky about. Now I know.

Thanks Christian. You have made a believer out of me.

-C.C.

>>>>My Response

C.C.- he is lucky to have met you, and so am I.

Thanks for sharing and you made my day.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. If you haven’t downloaded my Catch Him and Keep Him ebook, you might want to do it here:

Catch Him And Keep Him

What do men want?

What’s wrong with men when it comes to long-term committed relationships? Do they not want them? Or are they afraid?

How can I talk to my boyfriend about problems, or about our relationship?

Why do men cheat?

What does he really mean when he says “I love you but I’m not ‘IN LOVE’ with you”?

And all the other big questions.

My Inside The Mind Of A Man” program will give you the answers you need about guys, why it can be so hard to make a relationship work but doesn’t have to be… and what men really and truly want with a woman.

What you’re about to discover about men from this post might be the most important two or three minutes you ever spend on your love life.

Let’s get right to it…

Imagine knowing why your man does the things he does with you that hurt or confuse you.

Imagine knowing what your boyfriend REALLY means when he says he loves you, but he’s not feeling “IN LOVE” with you.

Imagine knowing what great, mature men really look and act like, and attracting only them.

Imagine knowing how to talk to a man so he opens up and embraces your feelings, instead of shutting down and subtly punishing you for having them.

And finally…

Imagine never having to go through all the uncertainty and the stress of trying to make your relationship work and last, and not knowing if it will work out.

I want to share something special about men with you right now that I’ve never shared before.

Something that could start making it EASY for you to have the kind of relationship you really want with your boyfriend.

It’s on the topic I’ve had literally thousands of women writing in to ask about-

What are men thinking in relationships?

I answer this question in my unique and comprehensive CD/DVD program,  ”Inside The Mind Of A Man.”

I’ve also answered the questions:

What do men want?

How can a woman have a great relationship without having to try and be the one to hold it all together?

Do all men cheat? And why do men cheat?

How can you talk to a man about your feelings and your relationships? And how do you get him to really listen?

And lots of the other big questions you have about men.

This is the program I worked on for years, pulling together all the big questions about men that women have, and finding the REAL ANSWERS.

I’m excited to say that I’ve honestly “cracked the code” about what men think and want when it comes to love and a relationship.

And I’m not just saying that because it sounds good.

I’m telling you that because what’s in this program about men and how they think and act in relationships (the good and the bad) has already changed the lives and relationships of hundreds and hundreds of women who own it.

And now I want you to have the same experience:

To stop worrying and wondering if you’ll ever have any clue what men or thinking, or what they’re going to do next…

And instead to start KNOWING what’s going on, and feeling confident and comfortable with your man… while he feels incredibly ATTRACTED and enchanted by you because you make him feel the way no other woman has ever made him feel.

I want you to know what this feels like.

I want you to have the confidence and love in your life that only comes from knowing what’s going on with the man in your life.

If you keep on guessing and finding out that you don’t really understand what’s going on with your guy before it’s too late… you’re going to keep having the same bad situations and fall-outs with men that you’ve been having.

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DO MEN HAVE TO MAKE SO MANY MISTAKES WITH YOU?

Oh, so I don’t forget-

There’s something else just as important about men and the mistakes they often make with women and relationships that I need to talk about with you…

Tell me if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the following questions:

-Why is it that men want a relationship one day, then fear for their “freedom” the next?

-Why does it seem so hard when I meet a man to tell a great mature guy, from just another flaky one?

-How come I attract all the wrong men?

-Based on how men act, do men even want or care about relationships?

-Do all men cheat?

-What do men really want or need to be loving and loyal and make a happy relationship with me?

-What are men thinking!?

If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, then my program “Inside The Mind Of A Man” is for you.

It’s going to not only answer all of these questions, and show you the truth about men…

But it’s also going to show you the real steps for being the kind of woman, and having the kind of relationship, that a man will literally hold on to and cherish with all his heart and soul.

Too many women have found that men can often be careless and lazy in relationships.

WRONG.

This is absolutely NOT TRUE if you trigger the right feelings in your boyfriend in your relationship.

Some men feel so strongly that they’d do ANYTHING to protect her and their relationship.

And I mean ANYTHING.

He’d risk heartbreak.

He’d spend all his money if he had to.

He’d travel around the world just to be with you for a night.

He’d even risk physical harm or DEATH just to keep you safe and protected.

A man can and will become DEEPLY COMMITTED to his girlfriend and their relationship… if he is feeling the right things with her.

If he knows she’s worth it.

And therein lies the secret -

How do you make a man feel so in love and so deeply connected and committed to you that he’d do anything for you, and never think twice about leaving or giving up?

This is the exact question that my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program answers.

I’ve created a program that is all about what men really want, what they think and feel in relationships… and what it is about a woman that can take even the most confirmed bachelor and turn him into a romantic “fool” for his woman for the rest of his life.

In this amazing program I show you:

-The 3 Greatest Fears men have about relationships. Once you know these it will put ALL his confusing behavior in a new perspective for you

-What you need to know about why men cheat, even when they’re in love with a woman

-The 6 Ways To AFFAIR-PROOF your relationship, some of which are easy-to-apply “no-brainers,” and a couple that are sure to surprise you

-How you might literally be “talking your relationship to death” - and better ways to communicate that will enable him to “step up” and want to connect and commit with you

-The 3 Archetypes of how mature men are in relationships, how to know which one your man is, and how to grow your relationship with him

-The 4 Areas Of Masculine Maturity to look for in any man that are easy to identify once you know how to look for them

-The 2 Types of Male Commitment, and the 4 specific “qualifiers” for a man when he’s considering making a “Forever Commitment” to you

-The 8 Attraction Killers for a Man and why you should avoid these or else you risk your man wanting to leave for good

-What most women aren’t talking about with men and sexuality, and how this relates to cheating and infidelity

-The importance of keeping your “sexual polarity” alive in order to keep the attraction and sexual tension alive throughout your relationship… and simple ways to do this that will re-ignite the passion in your relationship

-The 7 Things Men REALLY Want From A Woman … if you’re fulfilling these needs from a man he will never think to leave you - period

-And lots more…

Now you have a decision to make.

You can go on struggling with men and relationships not knowing what’s really going on, and repeat a lot of the same patterns.

Or…

You can get to the truth of what a guy wants, why he does the things he does… and you’ll start experiencing how easy it can be to have the kind of relationship you really want, once you know what it takes.

It’s your decision.

If you’re ready to stop running into the same problems with men and blaming them for what’s not working (even if it is their fault)… then you need to try my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program right now.

Make it easy for yourself, and easy for your boyfriend to know you’re the only woman he wants to be with and stay with.

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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. My “Inside the Mind of a Man” program is what so many women who write me have been asking for — it’s a bare-all confession of all the most important secrets and truths about how men really think and act, and what they want in relationships.

Even though this shows you what’s really going on with men, it’s actually your guide to getting what YOU WANT from your relationship by making your man have that magical feeling of being understood by you, and knowing your relationship is “the one” for him.

Imagine the feeling of knowing that your man will never want to lose you because he feels so much better off in his life with you?

Imagine your man constantly looking and feeling INSPIRED by you and your relationship, instead of showing you that he’s drained, doubting, or losing interest in things with you?

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One minute everything feels great and you’re laughing and connecting and the next minute some weird “mood” comes over him and he goes off into his own little world.

Or maybe your relationship is chugging along at full speed, getting closer and closer, and suddenly you feel like YOU are the only one reaching out and connecting…and he is just sitting there?

What’s up with that?

Why do men do this?

If this has ever happened to you, I want you to know that it’s critical for you to know WHY - and what to do about it (and what to AVOID doing at all costs).

PAY ATTENTION: Because this is important:

How you react in a situation like this can mean the difference between him KNOWING the one woman who can make him happy, or feeling unsure about the future of your relationship.

Find out what’s going on “Inside The Mind Of A Man” by going to this link right now:

Inside The Mind Of A Man

Now I’d like to share a question I recently received from a reader about a situation just like this.

***QUESTION FROM A READER:***

“Dear Christian,

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost one year and we are very serious about each other. We are even talking about marriage and we have already moved in together.

So what’s the problem you ask?

Even after all this time, I still find myself trying to figure out what he’s thinking sometimes.

Sometimes he’s a mystery to me, why he does and says some of the things he does, and this scares me a lot and makes me crazy since we are so serious about each other.

For example, sometimes he just gets quiet and won’t talk to me. And it doesn’t have to be anything going wrong like a fight or anything for this to happen.

He says that he needs his alone time, but I sense that it’s because of something I have done that makes him shut down. I’d really like to fix it if I could. I wish I knew how to read these things better or if I even should be reading anything into it at all. Can you help?

–M.”

***MY RESPONSE:***

I can definitely help.

First of all, I have some good news for you.

You can relax.

From what I’m hearing about your situation, there is nothing abnormal or wrong with what is happening between you and your boyfriend.

The fact that he’s telling you he needs “alone time” doesn’t have ANYTHING to do with how he feels about you and your “serious” relationship.

It has EVERYTHING to do with how a man approaches relationships, his own “down time” and the “up time” when he is with you.

Many women believe that when a man acts “disengaged” it is because he’s not happy, or he’s unsatisfied, or he doesn’t want to be with you and wants to be with someone else.

NOT SO!

As a matter of fact, thinking that there’s something wrong with the relationship when a man gets quiet is one of what I call the “Man Myths” that a lot of women believe about men.

The way your boyfriend is behaving is TYPICAL and to be expected of a man in a relationship. It doesn’t mean something is WRONG…for example:

Has your guy ever done this?

– Made plans to spend a night alone with “the guys” after several intense and romantic days with you

– Go and “zone out” in front of the T.V. or computer after dinner or after a long conversation with you, and acts irritated when you try to interrupt him

– Spend huge chunks of time on weekends tinkering around the garage or working on his hobby and not engaged or interested in spending time with you

I’d bet that he’s done this more than once… and when he does, what do YOU think about what’s going through his mind?

Do you start wondering if he’s angry about something you did or said, or is somehow DISAPPROVING of you in some way?

Do you wonder if he cares LESS about you in that moment, or is questioning your relationship?

Do you start to talk yourself into feeling, “ok, well he’s into his own thing, so I’m going to go off and be into mine.”

Or do you think, “well I need to fill my time with other interests since he is OBVIOUSLY not interested in spending his precious time with me.”

If you find yourself thinking any of these things, chances are pretty good that you’re reacting to him in a way that sends a very negative message - a message that is GUARANTEED to send him packing or push him away from you.

That’s because you’re reacting to a MYTH that you heard somewhere about men - that men really don’t care about spending quality, intimate time with women.

OK, I’m a man and I am going to say that again - and in all caps (because I can)!

MEN DO CARE ABOUT SPENDING QUALITY, INTIMATE TIME WITH WOMEN.

What’s worse, though, is that by believing the myth that men need alone time BECAUSE they don’t care about you, or would rather NOT talk because they’re disapproving of you in any way is probably causing you to behave in a way that is DESTRUCTIVE to your relationship.

Let me explain.

You wrote in your email that you feel scared and a little bit crazy when your boyfriend behaves in a way that is a mystery to you.

What if I were to tell you that men have a completely different way of UNPLUGGING and decompressing than women do…and that for a man, to spend time alone WITHOUT TALKING or having a “deep” conversation is his way of relaxing and getting back some of his mental energy.

And yet you INTERPRET it as meaning that he isn’t engaged with you in some way.

The thing is, if you’re punishing him in some way for doing things that are actually normal and NATURAL for him as a man, such as needing alone time or time to zone out and decompress, then what you’re actually communicating to him is that you don’t understand who he is.

And if your man doesn’t think that you understand him, then OF COURSE he will disengage!

You just want him to be exactly like you.

But that’s not what you REALLY want, is it?

While it’s true that there are fundamental differences in men and women, such as the way they decompress and re-energize, it’s also true that they have much more in COMMON than you think.

Most women I talk with don’t realize that men and women aren’t really that different.

Look at the list below. Do these sound like myths to you? Actually, they are TRUTHS about menand how they feel about relationships.

Men may not ADMIT this readily, but for most men, when they decide that a woman is TRULY the woman for them, it is because she has met these criteria - maybe not all, but definitely most.

> She makes him feel cherished

> She makes him feel her desire for him, so he never feels unattractive, insignificant or unimportant

> He feels SAFE and secure in the relationship

> She makes him spontaneous and FUN in a way he hasn’t felt like since his youth…and feeling things that can’t be planned in a relationship, just like you

I’ve produced a unique program that answers all those burning questions you have about what your boyfriend is thinking and feeling when he does something that feels like a mystery to you.

My new Inside The Mind Of A Man program is YOUR roadmap to how a real man thinks and behaves, so you never again have to feel worried or scared about something he said… or didn’t say.

This all-new material will help you discover, without a doubt, what his level of maturity is… to what he thinks of sleeping with other women… to what it takes for him to know he wants to commit to you forever.

You can read about this amazing program right here:

Inside The Mind Of A Man

When I filmed this program live in Los Angeles, I have to admit that at first I wasn’t sure how the women in the audience would take it.

Some of the insights I revealed about men are a little bit racy, a little bit TOO honest. And frankly…I was a little uncomfortable with where the discussion was going!

But the reaction from the women of all ages in the audience was overwhelming.

I could see a wave of change taking place with the women in the audience - women who were desperate to gain some insight into their guys’ minds - and they suddenly started to grasp how a guy’s mind works. how they could approach men with a new outlook… even if they had been hesitant and apprehensive with men before.

But don’t take my word for it. Here’s some feedback I received from a woman who attended the program.

This amazing women was kind enough to share her thoughts right after the taping was finished:

“The Inside The Mind Of A Man program taught me that a man wants to free to be himself and be your hero, NOT free from you, which is a misconception many women have.

The most important thing I learned is that men are more bothered by stress and confrontation than women. They often see our desire to talk as conflict, thus men are more passive and we think they are not listening. I learned that criticism of your man definitely does not work. Liberal praise and reward is the only way to success with a man. It’s a Pavlov’s Dog thing.

N.K. Los Angeles, CA”

LOL! “Pavlov’s Dog thing.” Nice.

This program is literally for ANY woman who wants to have a relationship with a man - the kind of relationship that has depth and will stand the test of time.

My Inside The Mind Of A Man program is going to show you exactly how to start sharing the kind of relationship you deserve with a man, because you’ll have a deep level of understanding about him.

You’ll discover how to keep your relationship passionate and AFFAIR-FREE, how to talk to him about how you’re feeling so he’ll listen and care, and you’ll learn what stage of maturity your man is in so you’ll “get” hy he acts a certain way (and what it means to your relationship for the long-term.)

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That’s right, you can review your copy for a full 30 days before deciding if it’s the right program for you.

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program.

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Good luck and I’ll talk to you again soon!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. My “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program is the program I’ve finally created for you that reveals the real secrets about what men think and feel when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships.

This program will show you:

> The 7 Things that men REALLY WANT from women

> Why men cheat, even when they say they’re in love with you

> How one of the most common myths women believe about men can actually be preventing you from EXPRESSING your needs and desires to a man; learn the FACTS and experience a complete shift in your perceptions and feel EMPOWERED instantly

> The 8 Attraction Killers that will make him think twice about being with you in the future

> And much more…

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Maybe this is something you’ve been curious about, too.

You’ve met a man who’s over 40.

Let’s say he’s never been married.

He’s got a great career, is fairly successful, and has a lot going on in his life.

You find him very fascinating and attractive, and you think about how much you’d love to have a man like this in your life.

You date him a few times, and he seems like a great guy, but something feels a little “off” in the things he does and says (even though you tried to ignore it or deny it).

He seems a little defensive, a little reserved - specifically when it comes to letting you know how he feels or what he wants from a “relationship.”

He almost seems SCARED or turned off by the idea of anything long-term or “serious.”

He gives you the impression that he’s just into having fun, seeing you once in a while, but he’s not into anything more than that. He doesn’t say it directly, but you have a feeling this guy is just into playing the field.

There are the little clues.

He has dates with other “friends” and always seems to be busy every night of the week.

He never introduces you to his close friends or family, and when he does, you’re just “a friend.”

He likes to do things and hang out in places with a much younger crowd.

You really like this guy, but you know it’s probably hopeless. He is only interested in women to have fun with, and maybe even women much, much younger than you are.

And then there’s the man who WAS married before. Maybe he’s even got kids from his previous marriage or relationship.

He’s loving, responsible, and you sense that he could be a great long-term partner.

You have a great connection and you have a lot in common.

Then suddenly, (and particularly AFTER you’ve had an amazing and intimate time together) he pulls back a little.

He tells you he wants to “go slow” and “not rush into anything serious”, which is fine and you agree.

But then a little while later he completely withdraws and acts like he wants NOTHING to do with a serious relationship after all.

Ouch!

He acts very “into you” one minute, and very loving, then doesn’t call you for days, or acts distracted and distant. You’re confused and hurt, and you don’t know what to do next.

Maybe he gives you a “been-there-done-that” speech, or makes you feel like you’re the “clingy” one who wants so much more than he’s willing to offer.

He leads you to believe that he’s not interested in anything more than being a “good friend” because he’s done the marriage thing, and he’s not into that anymore.

Or he’s never been married, and isn’t really interested in getting married at this point in his life.

You feel like he’s getting ahead of himself, so you try to let him know that you don’t mind taking it slow, but nothing helps.

You want to date a man who’s close to your age, but a man your age doesn’t seem to want anything real.

It’s like you can’t win!

Which leads you to ask yourself:

Do older, successful men just have more “baggage” when it comes to love and relationships?

Or are they commitment-phobes?

Is it virtually impossible to meet a single or divorced man over 40 who wants to settle down with one woman, raise a family, have kids, and have a happy, committed relationship?

A lot of women write and tell me that it’s their experience that men over 40 just aren’t available for a relationship anymore.

Either the men have been married and don’t want to marry again, or have never been married and don’t intend to in the future, or they’re just looking to have fun.

They seem to be carrying around a bunch of “baggage” from the past, and they’re afraid to have a committed relationship. They want to keep their “freedom.” Maybe they only want to date women half their age.

This is a fascinating phenomenon to me.

Not that men over 40 are being seen as having “baggage,” but that so many women are having this experience with these men who are 40-plus years old.

What’s going on here?

And what can you do if you want to have a committed, long-term, quality relationship with a man over 40, but you keep having this negative experience?

To answer, I want to point out that first and foremost, we all as human beings look at others according to what they can give us, or what we need from them.

If you push aside your own needs and look at the man as being simply HUMAN, you’ll realize you’re identical.

You want love, but you’re afraid to take risks because you’ve been wounded.

He may feel the same way.

And hey - we all have baggage from relationships that have broken our hearts, on some level.

The more wounded we are, the more defensive we can become if we don’t heal those wounds.

If a man acts defensive and cold, and seems to be afraid of love or commitment, that COULD mean that he has all kinds of baggage from a prior relationship. He got hurt. He’s afraid of risking it all and getting hurt again.

If you look at his defenses, they look really annoying and harsh to you. What you may not realize is that you have your OWN set of harsh defenses that may not be as apparent to you.

Hey, don’t get the wrong idea.

You don’t want to get involved with a guy if he doesn’t want to get close to you. But you can have a bit of COMPASSION for where he’s coming from.

If you look out there and you see all these men who want to run around and don’t want to be in a committed relationship, usually those men are afraid of falling in love and needing a woman.

It’s ironic, but statistics will show that when a man and a woman are in a long marriage together, and the woman dies, the man will die shortly thereafter.

It’s not true so much for women.

If the old man dies first, the woman is more resilient and goes on living for years afterward.

Which shows that men are actually more vulnerable and more afraid to take a risk and be vulnerable and attached to a woman, because he literally fears that he might DIE without her!

If a man isn’t “ready” because he’s still dealing with the baggage from his past, it doesn’t mean that you should wait around for him to “get ready.”

But definitely have some understanding about WHY he’s afraid or why he’s resisting being in a committed relationship.”

In my experience, men over 40 - just like many women over 40 - have experienced a lot of disappointment and pain in their love lives. In trying to defend themselves against more of that pain, some men may appear to have a lot of “issues” and be callous and selfish.

As humans, we have different ways of dealing with things from our past.

But I also know that there are many, many men over 40 who would love nothing more than to find a great woman, commit to her, have kids or help raise a family, and experience true and lasting love in their life.

The key is to RECOGNIZE a great man when you meet one, so you don’t waste your time with a man who may not be “ready” or willing to have a real relationship with you.

For example, I think it’s important to understand the stages of MATURITY men go through in their lives.

It’s not chronological.

You can meet a man who’s 25 years old and already very mature and ready for a loving, committed relationship where BOTH his needs and his partner’s needs are important to him.

Or, you can meet a man who’s 45 and still just a “boy” in a lot of ways that affect how he is in a relationship.

If you know what stage of maturity your man is in, you can better understand where he’s coming from and what you can - OR CAN’T DO - to change the way he is in a relationship.

If you’ve ever experienced these with a man:

> He comes on strong at first, but then disappears

> He changes his mind about you in a moment, for apparently no reason

> He talks about wanting to travel and “explore” the world and live an adventurous life (often without you in it)

> He’s controlling and inflexible at times

Then you’ve been experiencing certain symptoms of a man’s maturity level, from a “boy” all the way to a mature and self-possessed “King.”

In my program, Inside The Mind Of A Man, I explain in detail everything you need to look for when you meet a man to know whether he’s still a self-involved “boy” or whether he’s a purposeful and focused “king.”

I also help you easily and quickly recognize his maturity level by listening to how he talks about sex, what he thinks of his job, and what he does in his spare time.

Why is all this important?

So that you can tell whether or not a man is potentially RIGHT for you early on. This way, you won’t waste many months or years trying to “change” him into something he’s not.

There are 3 profound truths about relationships:

1. The man you CHOOSE is the one you GET.

2. YOU are ultimately responsible for your own love life and selecting the right man.

3. You can’t change a man, “make” a man become mature or help him work on his issues. He has to do that in his own way, based on his own internal motivations.

This is why I am going to make an important suggestion and help you by giving you powerful tools for choosing and understanding a man.

If you’re ready to learn what makes a GOOD MAN and what qualities and personality traits signal a mature, “together” man so that you don’t have to wonder if he’s going to be right for you for the long-term…

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If you’re ready to stop meeting “boys,” jerks and players, and you want to finally be able to say “YES!” to the right man for a change, then you need to get “Inside The Mind Of A Man” CD or DVD program.

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I’d love to hear how my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program changes the way you understand and relate to ANY man.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. You may not want to hear this, but I’m going to say it anyway.

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Maybe you were dating for a while and you thought things were pretty amazing, but he wasn’t so sure.

Or maybe YOU were the one who decided it was better to end things. But now you find yourself wondering if that was really the right move, because you’re having trouble moving on.

Are you’re still trying to figure out how to get him back, or show him that you’re really “the one” for him?

You text him, or call him, and maybe agreed to “still be friends” and hang out once in a while.

But nothing seems to make you feel better. In fact, the more you talk to him or see him, the WORSE you feel.

Still, you can’t imagine not talking to him at all because you still have some very intense feelings that just aren’t going away anytime soon.

In any case, you’re feeling pretty “stuck” right now, and you don’t know what to do about it.

If that’s true, then stick around and keep reading, because in this email I’m going to give you 3 powerful remedies for getting past a break-up and getting your love life BACK ON TRACK.

These remedies will fast-track you through feeling better and getting past all the confusion of your break-up.

Take a few minutes to read and really THINK about each step, and then commit to follow through on each one.

You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.

Here they are:

STEP #1: RECOGNIZE WHAT WASN’T WORKING FOR YOU

So let me ask you.

Are you spending a lot of time thinking about all the ways you screwed up in your relationship with your boyfriend, but all the ways he was great?

Do you keep rehashing an argument, wondering if things would have been better if you said or did something different from the beginning with him, feeling guilty or bad that things moved “too fast” between you (and it scared him away)?

Do you daydream about all the ways he was special, and how you’ll never find anyone who understands you quite the same way he did?

Romanticizing or re-hashing the past is a pretty common thing many women do when they break up with a man.

Big mistake.

Don’t do this to yourself.

This is 100% sure to only make you feel MORE AWFUL, not to mention that it keeps you from focusing on what’s most important to you right now.

And that is learning how to get what you want and how to have the kind of relationship you deserve in the FUTURE.

When you focus on your ex too much, and you spend your time “pining away” for a relationship, you miss out on a very important lesson.

You stop seeing all the ways that the relationship made life a ROLLER COASTER for you.

You don’t realize all the ways he wasn’t right for you or made you feel less than your true self.

You don’t learn what it is your really want and need from a relationship in order to be fulfilled.

Let’s face it, you were led down some very negative emotional paths by this guy, weren’t you?

So, instead of thinking only of the “good times” and how much you miss him, consider all the things he did and said that made you feel insecure, anxious or frustrated - feelings that one way or another probably contributed to the end of the relationship.

What can you learn about yourself, love and men from the things that drove you two apart, so that you’re sure to have a more intimate, loving and evolved relationship next time around.

Don’t repeat those same mistakes in your next relationship.

If you’re starting to realize now that even if you love a man, you don’t really UNDERSTAND what it is that makes a relationship actually WORK and last with one…

Or you don’t understand what you’re doing in the relationship that’s causing him to withdraw or lose interest in you, you’ll just keep bringing those same issues into future relationships.

Then I want to show you:

– What defines a “good”, MATURE guy to begin with, so you don’t keep picking men who just aren’t ready for a real relationship in the first place

– What makes a man feel inspired to be completely devoted to you from day 1, both emotionally and
sexually

– What a man needs in order to feel that he’s in love with you and that a relationship is “working” in his mind

Go here to know what a truly honest and mature looks and sounds like, what inspires him to see you as the only woman for him. and how to make it effortless to want to be with you FOREVER:

Into the Mind of a Man

STEP #2: STOP “LOSING YOURSELF” IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

You probably gave up a lot to be with your guy.

You gave up time with your friends and family.

You gave up doing things you USED to love doing - things like reading, exercising, going on hikes, visiting art shows,whatever.

You gave it up in order to spend time with him.

You gave it up to make him feel comfortable.

You gave things up because the RELATIONSHIP seemed important, and you wanted it to work.

Sure, I get it. Many women feel like they need to give things up to keep a man happy and attracted.

But if you’re using that excuse to:

-Stay emotionally attached to him, because you feel that you can’t “get over him” easily since you gave up so much

-Feel too depressed to go out with your friends or get back to the things that used to make you feel alive and happy

-Refuse to “get back out there” and date someone new.

Then guess what you’re doing?

Yep, that’s right.

You’re STILL giving up more of you and your happiness for his sake. Even though he’s out of your life.

Have weeks, months or years have gone by, and you’re still in the same “sacrificing” place, putting your life on hold instead of realizing your own needs?

Snap out of it!

You are actually continuing the very thing that helped break your relationship apart, and made you feel unhappy and unfulfilled.

Stop the cycle of only finding that your relationships are about you and your partner turning on each other and breaking each other down.

It’s time you learned how to RECEIVE and to get the true love and devotion you deserve from a man.

And YES, by you changing the way YOU go about your relationship you can make this change happen in the man you’re with, or in the kind of man you attract.

Don’t wait for the right relationship to “happen to you”, when you have the power to make it happen for yourself and feel 100% confident about where your love and relationship is headed.

Let what you do from here forward in relationships start giving back and feeding you inside and out.

STEP #3: BE READY FOR LOVE WHEN IT FINDS YOU

When you end a relationship that felt like it had a lot of “promise” and connection, it’s hard to believe you’ll ever find love again, at least in quite the same way.

You might even vow not to date again for a LONG TIME, because you just don’t want to get hurt again.

It can feel pretty safe to live inside the little “bubble” you make for yourself, just working on your career, spending time with friends, doing things that make you happy.

What do you need a man for anyway? (You think.)

You put yourself and your love life in a “holding pattern” because you don’t want to let another man in or get close.

You don’t want to be vulnerable. What’s the point, if all that’s going to happen is that you’ll end up feeling more of the same, bad feelings you’re trying to get over now - right?

Actually, no.

I don’t agree.

Because if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize that you don’t want to shut yourself off from what can be the opportunity for an amazing, life-long experience.

That one great guy you’re meant to be with could be out there right now. Unless you create the “space” for him in your life, you won’t be ready for love when it finds you.

Ok, you may feel pretty in-control and safe right now, but are you LIVING? If you’re not taking a risk, are you risking never feeling the LOVE and connection that could transform your life someday?

Nod your head right now if you feel even a GLIMMER of truth in what I’m saying.

And here’s another common thing I hear from women who aren’t ready to date again.

“There’s no good men out there for me anyway. The ones I’m attracted to aren’t attracted to me. Or they’re taken.”

I can see how you may feel that way if you’re not sure how you’re going to attract the RIGHT guy, or the type of guy you’re into.

Plus, your recent experience with men has been, well, less than great.

Like when a guy comes on strong at first, then suddenly tells you he’s “not ready” for anything serious, or isn’t “into” monogamy or commitment.

No wonder you’d rather stick a twig in your eye than date again anytime soon.

Yeah, I get it.

Alright, but what if I told you that you that I can help you learn exactly how to identify and ATTRACT the right guy, and give you an “edge” that you’ve never had before in dating?

Would it change the way you think and feel about men if you knew exactly how to get a man close and connected to you and KEEP him wanting you and ONLY you, without games, manipulation or “tricks” of any kind whatsoever?

You CAN experience the kind of LOVE you’ve always wanted in your life, regardless of what kinds of bad experiences you’ve had before.

In my Natural and Lasting Attraction program, I’ll show you how to make a man realize you’re a “catch” within the first few MINUTES of a conversation.

You’ll attract quality men because they will “sense” that you are the type of woman they’re looking to have something special with.

You’ll learn exactly what kinds of words and behavior magnetically draw a man to you, and what repels a man from EVER wanting anything past the “physical” with you, so you can avoid making those mistakes and losing a guy after getting intimate with him.

Here’s the truth about attraction: It’s not about being a great beauty, or about seducing a man into having feelings for you.

Actually, it’s about something deeper and morelong-lasting. And the best part is, that once a man feels THIS level of attraction for you, almost nothing can keep him away from wanting to be with you.

Read more about it right here:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

I hope you take these steps and find the love you really deserve.

And let me know how it goes.

Meanwhile, best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Do you feel discouraged by dating because the men you meet actually LIE about what they want from dating, what their background is, what they do for a living and sometimes even lie about whether or not they’re AVAILABLE?

To where sometimes you end up involved with a man who is already seriously dating another woman, or
worse - is married?

Not good.

If these are situations that you run into a little more than you’d like, then keep reading because in this e-mail I’m about to reveal the “MAGIC ATTITUDE” that actually inspires a man to be completely up front and honest with you about such things as:

• If he’s looking for something serious or casual
• If he’s seeing other people
• If you’re the kind of woman he’s drawn to
• If he’s ready to “settle down” or not

As a matter of fact, with this magic attitude, you may be able to get a man to reveal a lot more than he would ever reveal on his own, without prompting, and the ADDED BENEFIT of this is that he will feel more “connected” with you because he’ll feel he can tell you just about ANYTHING.

He’ll feel more attracted to you because he’ll feel more understood and appreciated by you.

This is why I call this attitude “magic.” It not only inspires honesty from a man, it makes him feel more connected to you at the same time.

Nice.

If you’re single and dating right now, this mindset or attitude can actually help you qualify the right man and avoid Mr. Wrong as early in the dating process as possible, perhaps even before you meet in person for the first time (if you’re online dating).

And if you’re in a relationship, it can help you get to the bottom of what he’s thinking and feeling, so you can know why he’s withdrawing, if he’s open to taking things to the “next level,” or what’s holding him back from fully committing to you.

But first, there’s a fundamental question that seems to bother a lot of women.

Why does this even have to be an issue, anyway?

Why can’t a guy just be up-front and honest with you?

Why, for example, is it so hard for a man to tell you why he’s not calling as often or why he stopped asking you out, especially when he seemed so “into you” in the beginning?

You go out on a few dates with a guy, and you think everything is going great.then he stops calling. He doesn’t respond to your emails or texts. It’s like he’s dropped off the face of the earth and YOU DON’T KNOW WHY.

It’s not that you are so particularly “heartbroken” about this. Maybe you even realized that he was a nice enough guy, but you didn’t know him well enough yet to fall in love or anything.

But still.you wish you could at least hear WHY he stopped calling, stopped asking you out, stopped responding to your messages.

You just wish he could be HONEST with you.

It’s no big deal - you can handle it. Right?

Hmmm.perhaps, but that’s not how HE may be seeing things.

WHY MEN WILL LIE TO YOU

Imagine this scenario:

You’re on a first or second date with a man and it’s going really well.

You’re laughing, you’re having a great conversation and you seem to have a lot in common, it’s almost scary how similar your attitudes are about certain things.

You feel an intense “chemistry” between you. He’s staring at you with that “look” that tells you he
is very attracted to you.

He even talks about places he’d like to take you to someday.

You are almost positive that this is the beginning of something meaningful with this guy.

But a day or two goes by after the date and you don’t hear from him. Then a week, then two weeks.

You send him a message, “Haven’t heard from you in a while. How are you?”

But he doesn’t respond. You never hear from him again. You beat yourself up, analyzing everything you did and said on the dates to see if maybe you accidentally put him off.

Months later, you find out the truth from someone else. During the time he was dating you, he was also dating another woman, and was now getting more “serious” with her.

You feel confused and disappointed, and a bit annoyed that he didn’t just tell you the TRUTH about what was going on.

Why didn’t he tell you the truth - either before, during or after he went on a date with you?

The truth would have been a whole lot better than days or weeks WONDERING and beating yourself up over nothing. Right? Of course it would.

So why does a man lie to you? Why does he avoid telling you the truth about a situation?

The answer is simple.

A man will lie to you because he hates confrontation.

He FEARS your emotional response. He fears your rejection of him. He fears that HE won’t be able to “handle” your response.

He’s imagining that you’re going to cry, scream, be disappointed, argue, or complain. He fears being put on the spot or “attacked.”

Understand - I’m not saying you would do any of those things.

I’m just telling you what that guy - who maybe doesn’t know you all that well yet - is thinking.

You may be a cool cucumber. Totally able to maturely handle whatever he tells you.

It doesn’t matter - somewhere in his past, there was a woman or two who did in fact overwhelm him with her emotional response, and it FREAKED him out.

He could have just said, “Hey, I am dating another woman right now, and I’ve decided that I want to get to know her better. I think you’re great, but I also feel that I want to give this other situation a chance.”

Instead, he tells you NOTHING–he avoids you, stops calling, and hopes that he won’t ever have to face your criticism and judgment.

It’s not a particularly mature and considerate thing to do, but that’s the reality of how it is with a lot of men. Not all, but definitely a lot.

They don’t even realize in the moment how YOU’RE feeling.all they know is that they have to do what they must do to avoid that confrontation they fear.

Despite this, there’s reason to be hopeful that you can create the space for a man to be honest with you with really no effort.

And here’s something else you need to know.there’s a “window of opportunity” for getting the most honesty right away, so you can screen out the men who are Mr. Wrong from the start.

Be sure to know when that window is open for you, and take advantage of it.

WHY FIRST AND SECOND DATES ARE CRITICAL TIMES FOR HONESTY

This is an interesting fact: a man will be MOST HONEST with you when he is NOT YET emotionally engaged or invested in your relationship yet.

In other words, you can probably learn a LOT about a man on a first or second date, when you’re just getting to know each other.

This is a time when he’s not so afraid to share, because he’s not afraid of disappointing you (since you don’t know each other well enough yet).

This is when you should be listening VERY closely to what   man tells you.

This is when he’ll tell you things like, “I’m just looking for something casual and fun right now. I just got out of a long-term relationship and not into getting into the same situation anytime soon.”

Or he might laugh and say, “I’m a lifetime bachelor. Settling down doesn’t interest me in the least.”

Or, he might reveal some other dark secret, “My ex was an unhappy woman. Always complaining about one
thing or another about me.”

And that’s when you need to HEAR what he’s saying.

And take him seriously. Know what you’re in for.

The man you choose is the man you get.

THE ATTITUDE & THE THREE MAGIC WORDS THAT INSPIRE HONESTY

When you want to inspire honesty in a man, so that you let him know that he is “safe” when he shares with you, you have to have what I call the “Anything is OK” attitude.

Now, this doesn’t mean that anything is OK for a man to do, and that you’re supposed to accept anything he does and have no boundaries or limitations.

The attitude is more like you thinking, “Anything is OK for you to share with me, but I know what I will and will not tolerate in my life, and what I want. But you can TELL ME anything. I can handle it.”

How do you communicate this attitude?

Easy.

With the three little words: “I’m just curious.”

It can go like this.

“Are you seeing anyone right now? I’m just curious?”

“What kind of relationship are you looking for? I’m just curious.”

“What kind of woman do you most admire? I’m just curious.”

“Where do you see yourself in the next five years? I’m just curious.”

Using these three words not only lets a man know that you’ll be OK with whatever he tells you, but that you’re not needy or too aggressive, and he can feel safe telling you just about anything.

Just don’t stare at him, holding your breath, waiting for his answer. That defeats the purpose - BIG TIME.

Here’s the deal.It’s not that a man is afraid of certain questions. It’s just that the WAY a woman asks those questions makes him feel strange.

If a woman warns, “You’re not seeing anyone else right now, are you?” It almost automatically invites DISHONESTY in a man.

If you want to inspire sincerity in a man, you must have the “Anything is OK” attitude and use those 3 magic words to get the most honest response possible.

That way, you won’t waste a lot of time going on dates with “unavailable” men, men who have skeletons in their closet, aren’t over their ex, or are actually interested in a different kind of relationship than you are.

Wouldn’t you benefit from knowing exactly how to use the “anything is OK” attitude to screen out the right man from all the wrong ones? How to know if the man you’re with now is really being honest with you about where the relationship is headed? Or if he’s lying?

If you have a handle on dating and flirting, but you are often confused by what men do and say, then there’s something I want to ask you.

Wouldn’t you love to have more insight into why men do the things they do, so that you could feel like you UNDERSTAND men better (and therefore have better relationships)?

Over the years, women have asked me the same kind of questions over and over about men, dating and relationships:

– What makes a man “fall” for a woman? What’s the secret?

– How can I get him to really listen to me and get me?

– Why do men cheat? Do all men want to cheat?

– How can I affair-proof my relationship?

– What do men look for in a woman before they decide she’s “The One”?

– Do men go through stages of maturity, and if so, what stage is my man in?

I couldn’t let these questions go unanswered.

So I actually put together an entire and unique program that answers ALL of these questions, including more in-depth insights into why men lie, why men SEEM to be more “cold” and “in control” emotionally, and how knowing your man inside and out can bring you closer than you ever thought possible.

In my Inside the Mind of a Man program, I help you understand what a man’s words and actions really mean, and I bust the common “man myths” that are keeping you from truly and completely connecting with a man.

To learn instantly what the 3 most common and destructive myths are about men that are holding you back from love, and can tear apart an otherwise great relationships, click here and read this:

Inside the Mind of a Man

I know that the easiest way to help you find and connect with a GOOD man is to teach you the skills to get the most honesty possible from a man, and then know what it takes for a man to feel deeply in love with you.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love,

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. Do you ever wonder why a man will spend time “zoning” out in front of the TV or totally absorbed in sports, or tinkering in the garage or browsing the Internet? Or why he hates to “talk” about the relationship?

Men have different needs when it comes to relaxing and unwinding. They also have different needs when it comes to intimacy and getting physical.

You probably know what those are. Or do you? Find out by reading about the 3 Man Myths and the truth behind what men REALLY need and want:

Inside the Mind of a Man

Tell me if you agree with any of these statements about men:

• Men like a challenge. They like the chase. If you’re too “easy” or approachable, they’ll get bored or lose interest.
• Men are dominant in relationships and women therefore are unable to express themselves.
• Men cheat and are incapable of being monogamous.
• Men would secretly love to date and sleep with different women the rest of their life rather than just have to stay with one serious committed relationship.
• Men just want to have fun and “freedom” and no responsibility.

Did you find yourself nodding at any of these?

Do you feel like having a fulfilling and connected relationship would be easy if it weren’t for the “hang-ups” men have about commitment or talking about how they feel?

If so, then it’s likely you’re NOT experiencing the kind of easy, effortless love that you want and deserve with a man, simply because you don’t UNDERSTAND what it takes for him to:

A) feel “in love” with you
B) want to make you happy
C) want to devote himself to you and only you

That’s why I’m about to offer you a little bit of insight into the 3 TRUTHS about men and how they really think and feel inside of relationships.

Here we go.

TRUTH #1: Men Don’t Need To Chase

It’s been said many times by many people that men need to be made to chase a woman in order to want her and commit wholeheartedly.

Not true.

In fact, this is plain wrong.

Rather than wanting to “chase” a woman, men are humans first.

Which means…

They want and need to feel a deep, emotional level of attraction for a woman if they are going to be moved to want bigger and better things with you in their life.

That everyday “Physical Attraction” a man can feel for any cute woman who walks by is not enough, and will never be enough to make him want something more than a casual fling.

Long story short -

Men can and will want to get close to you even if they just feel this Physical Attraction for you - and you will likely have a hard time figuring out if they are or aren’t feeling that deeper and more intense and lasting Emotional Attraction.

Not to mention, a man will get easily “bored” with you and be lazy about a relationship or any kind of commitment if he’s not feeling this Emotional Attraction for you.

So what is Emotional Attraction?

Emotional attraction goes way beyond what a woman looks like, what she says or how successful she is.

If a man senses that a woman knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to go after it, and that she has certain “standards” of what she will or won’t put up with from a man, then he will feel incredibly drawn to her.

It has nothing to do with playing GAMES or pretending to be “hard to get.”

If you think that men just want to “chase” a woman and that acting or being “unavailable” is a turn-on for him, then I have to tell you right now, you’re not going to get far with a man.

What works for keeping a man interested in you date after date, week after week, is something magical that can only happen if he’s feeling emotional attraction for you.

>> Tip: For a complete how-to on how to build emotional attraction in a man, go to:

Natural and Lasting Attraction

TRUTH #2: Men Feel Emotions Just Like Women

Believe it not, men are pretty sensitive.

It’s just how they handle what they feel that makes them hard to connect with about it, and hard to understand -

Unless you know what’s going on with how men handle these things in the first place.

Men have a hard time dealing with strong emotions from women.

So you know…in a recent groundbreaking study of how couples interact when in conflict, it was discovered that men often LOOK detached or withdrawn because they feel intensely STRESSED by the argument.

It’s not that they’re more “in control.”

On the contrary - they feel LESS in control.

So they withdraw in order to try and cope.

Fascinating.

One of the things men often say to women when there’s a conflict or tension in the relationship is, “why are you being so dramatic?”

Annoying, right?

That’s his way of saying, “This is getting too intense and I don’t know how to handle it.”

In my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program I explain the SPECIFIC ways to speak to a man about anything difficult so he will RELAX and actually open up to you, instead of telling you that YOU are being “difficult” or “needy.”

You have the power to bring him closer, even when you have something you need to express that isn’t light or cheerful.

There are certain ways to bring up difficult subjects to a man that ENGAGE him and make him want to do everything in his power to make you feel loved, safe and comfortable.

Does it seem like an impossible feat?

It’s not.

Find out how in my Inside The Mind Of A Man program.

TRUTH #3: Men Want Relationships

Men want to be in a relationship, and they have a strong desire to feel recognized as a great partner by their women.

Have you ever accused a man of being “not ready” for a relationship?

Here’s a mind-blowing statistic: WOMEN (not men) break off relationships or file for divorce 70% of the time.

That means that women are the ones initiating the end of a relationship much more often than men.

If that surprises you, you may also be surprised to know that a man enjoys being in committed, loving relationships as much as a woman does.

AS LONG AS IT DOESN’T FEEL HARD TO HIM.

If you give a man the impression that he can’t please you no matter WHAT he does, or that everything he does is pointless because he can’t do ANYTHING right, then guess what?

He’s going to wonder if he’s the right partner for you, and he’s going to begin to doubt whether or not he should even continue the relationship.

Maybe you’re saying, “but I don’t do that!”

It’s true. You may not even be aware that you’re doing this.

But there are certain words and phrases that communicate this to a man whether you’re aware of it or not.

Instead, when you show a man that you trust him to be a good partner to you, you will actually inspire him and trigger his devotion and attraction for you.

In my Inside The Mind Of A Man program, I show you specific ways that women can let their fear, mistrust and disappointment get in the way of what could be a happy, long-term relationship.

Would you like to know what to DO and SAY to a man to inspire him to be a better partner to you, WITHOUT accidentally communicating to him that your relationship isn’t working (for him)?

Then I strongly suggest you order a free 30-day trial copy of my program and discover the secret to finally understanding the most important things you’ll ever learn about men and how they think, feel and why they do what they do in relationships.

Find out more about what to do and say to inspire a man rather than accidentally pushing him away when you go to this link:

Inside The Mind Of A Man

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Let’s get right to it…

Imagine knowing why your man does the things he does with you that hurt or confuse you.

Imagine knowing what your boyfriend REALLY means when he says he loves you, but he’s not feeling “IN LOVE” with you.

Imagine knowing what a great mature man really looks and acts like, and attracting only that.

Imagine knowing how to talk to a man so he opens up and embraces your feelings, instead of shutting down and subtly punishing you for having them.

And finally…

Imagine never having to go through all the uncertainty and the stress of trying to make your relationship work and last with a man, and not knowing if it will work out.

I want to share something special about men with you right now.

Something that could start making it EASY for you to have the kind of relationship you really want with your boyfriend.

I’ve finished a program on the topic which I’ve had literally thousands of woman writing to me asking about-

What are men thinking in relationships?

I’ve finally answered this question in “ Inside The Mind Of A Man“.

I’ve also answered the questions-

What do men want?

How can a woman have a great relationship with a man without having to try and be the one to hold it all together?

Do all men cheat? And why do men cheat?

How can you talk to a man about your feelings and your relationships? And how do you get a man to really listen?

And lots of the other big questions you have
about men.

I worked on this program for years, pulling together all the big questions about men that women have, and finding the REAL ANSWERS.

I’m excited to say that I’ve honestly “cracked the code” about what men think and want when it comes to love and a relationship with a woman.

And I’m not just saying that because it sounds good.

I’m telling you that because what’s in this program about men and how they think and act in relationships (the good and the bad) has already changed the lives and relationships of a close group of women I shared it with at a live workshop in Los Angeles.

And, I want you to have the same experience-

To stop worrying and wondering if you’ll ever have any clue what men are thinking, or what they’re going to do next…

And instead to start KNOWING what’s going on, and feeling confident and comfortable with your man… while he feels incredibly ATTRACTED and enchanted by you because you make him feel the way no other woman has ever made him feel.

I want you to know what this feels like.

I want you to have the confidence and love in your life that only comes from knowing what’s going on with the man in your life.

If you keep on guessing and finding out that you don’t really understand what’s going on with the guy you’re with before it’s too late… you’re going to keep having the same bad situations and fallouts with men that you’ve been having.

And I don’t want that for you.

If you’re ready to stop the disconnection and frustration that comes from both you and the guy you’re with not understanding each other…

Then I STRONGLY SUGGEST you take a minute and try my “ Inside The Mind Of A Man” program.

This program is packed with all new material that will transform the way you see and understand men, and how the guy in your life feels when he’s with you.

Are you a source of comfort, joy, love and passion for your man?

Or are you accidentally draining him, pushing him away, or bringing out the worst in him as a lover and a partner?

This programs shows you exactly how to get what’s going on with your man at such a deep level, and make him feel so incredible when he’s around you that he’ll do anything to give you the love and the relationship you want and deserve.

Take the tiny step right now of trying this program right now. It’s going to have a HUGE IMPACT on how your man feels with you right away, and answer all the questions you need to know about men.

Best of all, as with all my materials, you can try this program 100% without risk before deciding if you want to keep it.

I’ll ship you this program today and let you try it free for an entire 30 days.

It’s that easy.

If you really want things to work when you’re with the right man, and you don’t want to risk it by pretending you know how he feels and what’s going to make him know you’re the one and need and want you now and forever… then it’s probably a good idea you at least checked out this program.

Go here now to try my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program and start the rest of your love life today:

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DO MEN HAVE TO MAKE SO MANY MISTAKES WITH YOU?

Oh, so I don’t forget-

There’s something else just as important about men and the mistakes they often make with women and relationships that I need to talk about with you…

Tell me if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the following questions:

-Why is it that men want a relationship one day, then fear for their “freedom” the next?

-Why does it seem so hard when I meet a man to tell a great mature guy, from just another flaky one?

-How come I attract all the wrong men?

-Based on how men act, do men even want or care about relationships?

-Do all men cheat?

-What do men really want or need to be loving and loyal and make a happy relationship with me?

-What are men thinking!?

If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, then my new program “ Inside The Mind Of A Man” is for you.

It’s going to not only answer all of these questions, and show you the truth about men…

But it’s also going to show you the real steps for being the kind of woman, and having the kind of relationship, that a man will literally hold on to and cherish with all his heart and soul.

Too many women have found that men can often be careless and lazy in relationships.

WRONG.

This is absolutely NOT TRUE if you trigger the right feelings in your boyfriend in your relationship.

Some men feel so strongly that they’d do ANYTHING to protect her and their relationship.

And I mean ANYTHING.

He’d risk heartbreak.

He’d spend all his money if he had to.

He’d travel around the world just to be with you for a night.

He’d even risk physical harm or DEATH just to keep you safe and protected.

A man can and will become DEEPLY COMMITTED to his girlfriend and their relationship… if he is feeling the right things with her.

If he knows she’s worth it.

And therein lies the secret -

How do you make a man feel so in love and so deeply connected and committed to you that he’d do anything for you, and never think twice about leaving or giving up?

This is the exact question that my “ Inside The Mind Of A Man” program answers.

I’ve created a program that is all about what men really want, what they think and feel in relationships… and what it is about a woman that can take even the most confirmed bachelor and turn him into a romantic fool” for his woman for the rest of his life.

In this amazing program about men I show you:

-The 3 Greatest Fears men have about relationships with women. Once you know these it will put ALL his confusing behavior in a new perspective for you

-What you need to know about why men cheat, even when they’re in love with a woman

-The 6 Ways To AFFAIR-PROOF your relationship with a man, some of which are easy to apply “no-brainers,” and a couple that are sure to surprise you

-How you might literally be “talking your relationship to death” - and better ways to communicate that will enable him to “step up” and want to connect and commit with you

-The 3 Archetypes of how mature men are in relationships, how to know which one your man is, and how to grow your relationship with him

-The 4 Areas Of Masculine Maturity to look for in any man that are easy to identify in any man once you know how to look for them

-The 2 Types of Male Commitment, and the 4 specific “qualifiers” for a man when he’s considering making a “Forever Commitment” to you

-The 8 Attraction Killers for a Man and why you should avoid these or else you risk your man wanting to leave for good

-What most women aren’t talking about with men and sexuality, and how this relates to cheating and infidelity

-The importance of keeping your “sexual polarity” alive in order to keep the attraction and sexual tension alive throughout your relationship… and simple ways to do this with your man that will re-ignite the passion in your relationship

-The 7 Things Men REALLY Want From A Woman … if you’re fulfilling these needs from a man he will never think to leave you - period

-And lots more…

Now you have a decision to make.

You can go on struggling with men and relationships not knowing what’s really going on, and repeat a lot of the same patterns with men.

Or…

You can get to the truth of what a guy wants, why he does the things he does… and you’ll start experiencing how easy it can be to have the kind of relationship you really want with a man, once you know what it takes.

It’s your decision.

If you’re ready to stop running into the same problems with men and blaming them for what’s not working (even if it is their fault)… then you need to try my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program right now.

Make it easy for yourself, and easy for your boyfriend to know you’re the only woman he wants to be with and stay with.

Go here and try my “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program now:

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I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

P.S. Imagine your man constantly looking and feeling INSPIRED by you and your relationship, instead of showing you that he’s drained, doubting, or losing interesting in things with you?

My “Inside The Mind Of A Man” program will show you how to have all this, and feel great knowing that your man would never want to lose you, and that you’ll never be at a loss for what’s going on with him.

Try this program at no risk today, or learn more, right here:

Inside The Mind Of A Man